Thread: sex with someone you love vs. a FWB

Ive only had it with one girl, but now I have, maybe I will have it for fun rather than meaning. Though It takes a lot of courage getting your little freind out infront of someone.

I think it's different. Emotionally anyway, it just feels better with someone you love. With other guys, it just feels like I'm trying to pretend that we're in love, even though I full well know we're not. That, or if I was in it just to flat out DO someone, then I guess that's not even pretending to be in love. I much prefer it with someone that I'm in a "real" relationship with.

Originally Posted by Purple Dreams

Do feel there is a difference in the sex you've had with someone you love vs. a FWB. For example do you kiss more during intercourse when you love the person. Or is there no difference, really.

This really an interesting question you put out here, and you've already gotten quite a range of responses.
My first reaction was to say yes, there's a big difference, and it's much more fun having sex with someone you love. There can be that deep connection that makes the sex seem so much better.
But then I think back, and the woman I have loved the most in my life (though we were only together 2 years, and that almost 30 years ago, the day hardly goes by I don't think of her, and she cavorts through my dreams on a regular basis), was probably the least satisfying in bed. It was difficult to please her, our lovemaking was rarely satisfying for both of us, and often not so for either.
But we kissed, ah, we kissed!
I loved her deeply, and I'd still give anything to be with her.
I'm married now, and my wife doesn't much like to kiss at all...

So... I guess I can't answer your question at all, except to say "Maybe," and "Sometimes."

Originally Posted by Purple Dreams

Do feel there is a difference in the sex you've had with someone you love vs. a FWB. For example do you kiss more during intercourse when you love the person. Or is there no difference, really.

Maybe some positions are the same, but the thought behind it and emotions that go along are completely different.

As someone who has been in both situations: FWB is fun but meaningless, and sex with your love means EVERYTHING. It doesn't even compare in my eyes.