sex with someone you love vs. a FWB

**Purple Dreams** · 04-30-2010 02:07 PM

Do feel there is a difference in the sex you've had with someone you love vs. a FWB. For example do you kiss more during intercourse when you love the person. Or is there no difference, really.

**Mes T** · 04-30-2010 03:02 PM

I think it depends on chemistry, or how much you're both into the moment.

You can be in love with someone but not really enjoy the sex.

And you can be with someone you barely know but have such great chemistry that sex is amazing.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 04-30-2010 03:44 PM

To me, sex is sex. I agree with Mes. Granted, if you're with someone you love, the emotional connection DURING sex will be stronger, but just because you love someone doesn't mean sex will be great. I think when you're in love with someone you may feel more comfortable during sex, so yeah, maybe you'll kiss more, less inhibitions. But the argument could be made for the opposite as well, if you meet someone, take them home, one might say they have more unhibited sex with the stranger simply because there are no strings, they don't know you, you can be whatever you want.

**Purple Dreams** · 04-30-2010 05:36 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

To me, sex is sex. I agree with Mes. Granted, if you're with someone you love, the emotional connection DURING sex will be stronger, but just because you love someone doesn't mean sex will be great. I think when you're in love with someone you may feel more comfortable during sex, so yeah, maybe you'll kiss more, less inhibitions. But the argument could be made for the opposite as well, if you meet someone, take them home, one might say they have more unhibited sex with the stranger simply because there are no strings, they don't know you, you can be whatever you want.

True about not having inhibitions with a stranger. WHat I had in mind was someone who regularly have sex with but who you're not in a romantic relationship with.

**grrrr** · 04-30-2010 05:45 PM

There's a difference between "sex" and "making love" - (I hate that phrase)

**LanaBear** · 04-30-2010 05:55 PM

I guess it depends on what you are looking for.

FWB sex is great, if that is what you want and there is certainly nothing wrong with it.

However, the connection that my hubby and I have now, is the best thing ever, making sex the best thing ever.

Is there any difference on a physical level? Probably not. Is there any difference on a mental level? For me, yes, but that certainly is not true for everybody.

FWB sex, for me, is all about an itch that needs to be scratched. Two consenting people, no time or a desire for a relationship, but wanting the physical act of sex because it is enjoyable.

lol - grrrr - I hate the phrase "making love" too. I can't seem to make those words come out of my mouth.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 04-30-2010 06:30 PM

I agree. Ick. "making love" is false advertisement. It's not MAKING love, sex doesn't MAKE love. Sex doesn't = love. Sex may, or may not have ANYTHING to do with love. We use the L word far too freely.

Someone once said "make love to me". And I said "really? I thought I'd been MAKING love to you all day long when I was sharing myself with you, when I was caressing your head while you slept, when I was fixing your favorite food, when I was laying your comfy pj's out on the bed because I knew you had a hard day and wanted you to be comfortable, when I was cleaning up your dogs POO out of the floor so you wouldn't have to deal with it when you got home, when I kissed you goodbye this morning and told you I loved you. So, would you like me to do it all over again, or is it sex you're wanting?"

He never said it again.

**kygirl** · 04-30-2010 07:07 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

I agree. Ick. "making love" is false advertisement. It's not MAKING love, sex doesn't MAKE love. Sex doesn't = love. Sex may, or may not have ANYTHING to do with love. We use the L word far too freely.

Someone once said "make love to me". And I said "really? I thought I'd been MAKING love to you all day long when I was sharing myself with you, when I was caressing your head while you slept, when I was fixing your favorite food, when I was laying your comfy pj's out on the bed because I knew you had a hard day and wanted you to be comfortable, when I was cleaning up your dogs POO out of the floor so you wouldn't have to deal with it when you got home, when I kissed you goodbye this morning and told you I loved you. So, would you like me to do it all over again, or is it sex you're wanting?"

He never said it again.

ha ha You are TOO funny BD

**heryseshta** · 05-01-2010 09:55 PM

I think there is a fairly big difference for me. With fwb you both are just having sex, you focus on getting off and having the most fun you can. When you love them you focus on eachothers pleasure. It may not sound like much but it feels way differently emotionally.