im getting different points of view here. i spoke to my granfather today about it and he got tear eyed... he feels sad inside. idk why. . im not feeling anything. and okay i was wrong by inserting 4 fingers but its the only way i feel she enjoys it. and she does. i wanna be able to enjoy with no stress and feel. as to feel the first 2 minutes and then not feel anything at all. so in my mind i feel she is super concentrating on feeling me when im not feeling nothing and getting soft.
Originally Posted by stressed
Most of your post is commenting on the inside volume of the vagina. Not the muscles around the opening. What happens to those muscles after childbirth? The main thing a man feels going inside are the muscles at that opening. How much a womans inside volume can change when she's turned on, or how much it doesn't change after childbirth, isn't being debated. I'm reading his problem as the strength at the opening is not tight. If he indeed can use 4 fingers on her with ease, I can see that as a problem, for him. Not caused by a "huge" ex-boyfriend as he suggested though. BUT, if she has had children, or regularly uses super huge dildos or fisting or something like that, I can see the muscles at the opening relaxing over time and not being as tight. Of course she problably doesn't do all that. So maybe it's just a lack of strength of those muscles naturally. All vaginas are not created equal. I'm no super stud and had sex with lots of women, but I know with the women I've had sex with, vaginas are all over the place as far as size. Just as with penis size. If you couple a guy with a small girth penis, with a woman with a loose vagina opening, the feeling isn't going to be as great.
Hopefully he won't turn his discovery of this guy against his girlfriend. I'm sure she didn't pick this guy for the size of his penis. It just happened to be larger. Let it go and don't blame her.
It does sound like this is a real problem. Yes a woman's vagina can adjust quite a bit, but the fact that she can deliver a child has little analogy to accomodating a penis really. Pregnancy creates a variety of changes in a womans body including chenical changes that allow the pelvic bones to spread. If a woman is really loose during sex and has not control over her vaginal muscles, there are others factor in play.
Poor muscle strength and tone, vaginally is important, just as it is in all others parts of the body. This also ties in with abdominal muscle strength. Strengthening the PC will reduce or eliminate problems with incontenence in both genders, so this is about more than sexual pleasure. A woman with good strong PC mucles can easily tighten or ease them to accomodate a penis of a wide range of sizes. She will also expereince far more pleasure.
However, Cubanlink, you must be VERY careful how you approach this subject. If you speak to her as you have often written here, you will be toast as far as this relationship is concerned. Why not order yourself a device made for men to strengthen the PC? Start using it, do some research on it, it should allow you greater control. Then you could tell her what it is doing for you and that you have read that it will really enhance a woman's pleasure (leave yours out of this discussion) offer to buy her a kegel master or some vaginal weights. Maybe you could do your exersizes together?
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Maybe its just me but medically speaking I do not see how she can be so 'loose' when she is so young...I mean 4 fingers to get pleasure? That simply doesn't fit if she is fully able to get pleasure from a penis that is not 4 inches wide. Generally speaking a young woman will be 'tighter' simply because of anatomy at that age. But if she gets pleasure from everything and anything then what exactly is the problem? To me it seems you are creating your own problems just because you want to have something to blame-just as another poster said. Its all in your head, you really do need to get over it.
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