Swallowing Help

**Mr. Inquisitive** · 05-03-2010 11:10 PM

Hello everyone,

My wife has tried swallowing my semen a couple of times without success. I have told her that I don't care but it was her that has actually has said she would like too and wishes she could (confused me, for sure). She says it is not really the taste but the texture and feel that she has issues with. I figured I would pose the question in a womens forum so that I will hopefully get a more honest answer.

If anyone has advice I can pass along to her it would be much appreciated.

Thanks.

**LanaBear** · 05-03-2010 11:24 PM

Some women just can't get past it.

One thing that helps is when you are about to cum, that you are as far back in her mouth as she can take you. That way it just kind of bypasses the mouth and shoots down the throat.

**LanaBear** · 05-03-2010 11:29 PM

Oh, also, by making sure you are hydrated (drinking plenty of water) it may help with the texture by making it smoother, less thick, etc.

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-04-2010 12:26 AM

Defintely stay hydrated, eat lots/drink lots of citrus and like lana says that will help with the consistancy/taste.

The quicker she swallows the less she will feel it, taste it. If she holds in her mouth pondering whether or not to swallow, if she holds it in her mouth waiting for a place to spit it out... she's tasting it feeling it WAY longer than necessary. If she swallows , gulps as fast as you ejaculate she won't even feel it for long.

I personally don't understand the aversion to the texture, I have friends that will eat puddings and jello's and say they can't tolerate the texture of semen. Its mental in those cases, I am pretty sure.

Sounds like she wants to work through that... and can be succesful. In past relationships I hated giving oral, and there was no way in the world anyone was going to ejaculate in my mouth... I was extremely disgusted at the thought.

Fast forward to my relationship now and I could not wait to do it, and now I do it so often, enjoy it so much... that I will literally crave his taste out of the blue. But I am also very in love with this man and very sexually connected to him. I see his orgasm, his ejaculate as his ultimate pleasure in tactile form and it turns me on to no end.

But I was never that way before, and never imagined I would be... a flip switched. So I believe even your wife has an aversion to it now, if she has a geniune interest... and can change her thought process she can come to not only tolerate it, but enjoy the bonding that can take place in those moments.

**stressed** · 05-04-2010 02:53 PM

You can try this after you have already ejaculated once or twice the same day (you can try it a while after sex, for example), so the semen won't be as thick (it may take more than once or twice, it depends on the man). Then you can follow Lana's excellent advice and go deeper in her throat as you ejaculate, so she won't get to feel much of either the taste or the texture. It should most definitely work.

Good luck! I think your wife wants to make this happen for you and that's wonderful.

**caterpillar79** · 05-04-2010 02:59 PM

You can try it in the shower so she can have water to aid her as well.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-04-2010 04:13 PM

I eat pudding and all kinds of weird textured stuff. But there are certain things (like mushrooms haha) that have an odd texture in my mouth that I have a hard time getting past. I have an aversion to thick saliva in my mouth, and semen is very similar except worse because it's warm and salty on top of being thick and feels slimy.

I can get past it though when it comes to oral, I just INSTANTLY start swallowing. (Still even at that point have to fight the gagging, though I don't let him see.

). So all in all, not a pleasant experience for me. But ya, if she's holding it in her mouth that's a big mistake.

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-04-2010 05:32 PM

The first time I gave oral to my bf I loved the fact that he made no assumptions as to what I'd want and was a gentleman and erred on the side of caution -- it was awesome to be able to pleasantly surprise him (and myself) with my choice

I won't lie and say it tastes like sweetbuttercream frosting, but at least in my guys case, its not strong at all.. rather neutral. I can see how the texture can be hard to get passed for a lot of women because in lieu of a less disgusting comparison lol... it can feel like/have the consistancy of a hot loogie...

And a lot of people would rather SPIT out one of those than swallow it! So I think the mentality of it comes into play , how the woman see's the ejaculate, and the oral sex she is providing in general I think are 2 major factors.

A woman that does not want to be giving oral sex and is doing so with a disgruntled state of mind, hey I'm doing you a favor type attitude she'd be less inclined to enjoy the outcome.

A woman that see's ejaculate as a waste product and equivelates to being urinated on , etc... (ive heard some women say they felt that way) is not going to enjoy the outcome.

And then there are women that just have a physical aversion to the texture, they love their partner, they love giving them oral, but they just can't physically have semen in their mouth without gagging and in those cases, they can take one for the team and swallow occasionally and/or just find sex alternative ways to have her significant other release during that time.

I just have a huge problem with the double standard of some women saying ick and gross and ew to their guy in respect (or lack of) to his orgasm. Knowing good and well they'd be hurt if he kept a spitoon by the bed and every time he was licking her if she got extra wet he began gagging and spitting or running from the bed to the sink in disgust.

**pittsburgh44** · 05-05-2010 03:12 PM

If you can, try keeping your member as far back in her mouth as you can so you miss her tongue as much as possible.

**morgy92** · 05-08-2010 04:04 PM

Yeah, I know the first time I gave a bj and didn't know whether or not I wanted to swallow when the time came for his ejaculation, and just the few seconds of having it in my mouth was enough to make me go "bleh!!!!!" and want to spit it out and couldn't believe I contemplated swallowing.

And so I found that 1) Its hard to swallow it AS its coming and
2) What worked for me was I sort of let it pool in the back of my mouth so it wasn't all over my tongue and when he was done, THEN I would swallow.

So I was able to swallow and enjoy seeing his shocked/extremely pleased face afterwards since I had talked to my current boyfriend about my negative feelings on swallowing.