Very smart - allowing her to maintain her statement of being 'asleep'. I really think that people who were brought up with guilt about masturbating (most of us), really really need a safe place to talk about it from. It took me years and years to get my wife to realize that virtually everybody does it and that I certainly do too and it is completely ok for her to and to even tell me about it. She rarely does, but she knows I masturbate several times a week and seems just fine. I also know she masturbates but I rarely bring it up being very careful to not let her get the old guilt feelings.