Thread: He doesn's want sex with me but today I found him jerking off to porn. Please advise.

Its amazing how readily women accept the responsibility for their SO actions... Please stop making excuses! Porn does ruin families and marriages due to the deceit that its cloaked in. When caught the reaction is shock and shame yet they go back time and time again.

My 20 year marriage was destroyed by porn and the deceit that goes hand in hand with such selfishness. After catching him, not once but four times over the years, I decided enough was enough and walked... Each time he was engrossed in porn our sex life died - he was getting off and didn't think outside his own desires, need and selfishness.
When I caught him out, the final time, he was watching pretty awful stuff - very young girls (he was over 40) of around 15-16 getting gang banged. At that point we hadn't had sex for 2 years. Stupid me didn't read th signs as I very stupidly forgave and forgot... yeah, dumb eh? We talked it out, again, and he admitted an addiction. He also refused counselling so he was happy to admit an addiction, but didn't want to do anything to resolve it, which is how I saw his refusal. I decided that I wasn't up for trying to fix it again... fourth time was the final time. It was MY best decision for me.

Anyway I hear he is with a nice woman - and she has two teenage daughters, coincidence??? I wouldn't trust him around them at all. In hindsight I'm so glad I refused to submit to all his pressure to have a daughter with him.

More importantly, I'm in a relationship with a man who is romantic, emotionally open and satisfies me completely... I couldn't be happier!