Thread: Men wanting sex more than women?

Originally Posted by TroubledMan

Supposedly they do exist, but I have yet to meet/talk to another man who doesn't want sex at least once a day. It is in our biology to spread our seed as much as possible...so we are literally always ready to go.

Well, it can be true when talking about the frequency of sex to another guy, our ego is going to get in the way. We may be wanting sex every 3 days, but we'll say we want it every day. I'll admit I'm fine with every couple/few days. Granted I'm not 20 years old anymore(I guess that was my ego talking, excusing why not). My sex drive has been higher than my girlfriends, we discussed it and compromised. She came to me one day after reading something about a couple that had sex every day and wanted to do that. After a while, I was the one that said lets go back to every couple/few days. So I'm proof we do exist.

Well, I would be thrilled with once a week. Currently it is once every 6-8 weeks, and is generally boring because she just gives in and doesn't actually want me.

You'd have had to be on this forum as long as we have and watched the years and years of women who think there's something wrong with them because their men don't "want them" to really understand the weariness we have with such a problem here. And that goes for either gender - many of the core members here, male and female, have dealt with such a situation. A lot of male members come in saying, my wife won't be intimate with me, I want to understand women better so that I can try to make her want me ... etc.
It seems, at the end of every thread concerning this subject, it comes down to the partner just doesn't want to change. They are perfectly happy with the infrequent intimacy they've established, for whatever reasons. So their partner has a decision to make: basically, you can live without your desired intimacy or you can do something to compromise the relationship ... cheat (most don't want to, the point isn't getting sex, it's being intimate with the loved one) or leave.
I feel like TroubledMan, you're in that situation, and maybe that's why you were so adamant against the idea that it could be flipped around. It's often hard to see the opposite gender in a different way than we have learned to perceive them. You're used to your uninterested partner - so it's hard to conceive of a woman in your position.
I would suggest that you work at it, but I've been pretty jaded by the outcome of almost every thread on the subject (I can't think of a single success story, but I could be wrong.) Honest communication is the main way to go. Good luck.

Originally Posted by Little

...It seems, at the end of every thread concerning this subject, it comes down to the partner just doesn't want to change. They are perfectly happy with the infrequent intimacy they've established, for whatever reasons. So their partner has a decision to make: basically, you can live without your desired intimacy or you can do something to compromise the relationship ... cheat (most don't want to, the point isn't getting sex, it's being intimate with the loved one) or leave.

That is certainly so; I've been there, I am there.
But I also know there are women out there whose sex drive is (at least!) a match for mine: when I was single, I encountered more than one such.
Shoot, I even thought I'd married one!
Things change, apparently.

Avoiding generalizations and giving one specific: With one exception, none of my male friends has ever talked to me about his sex life. That exception was someone who wanted to brag about his rather unusual lifestyle. The idea that men talk to each other about sex is certainly not always true.

As with TroubledMan, my wife just wants to get sex over with quickly (and rarely). And yes - I do everything I can for her in and out of bed. In our relationship I'm the romantic one, not her.

Sadly some percentage of women and men just don't seem interested in sex.