Thread: Is this anything serious...?

I agree, WC - the majority of women, when fully aroused don't need lube.

But then some do. Some women have an issue of 'drying up' (for want of a more delicate term) after a certain amount of time or just with the friction. Some women need a little extra lubrication to top up their own when with a larger partner. It does happen that a woman can be very turned on and still not produce enough natural lubrication to make sex as comfortable as it needs to be.

And some women just like the sensation. Nothing wrong with using lube.

Originally Posted by Iseulda

I think it may be a superficial tear, by which I mean minor tissue damage with no blood loss. Could be due to size or friction or both. Also, depending on how much time had passed since you experimented with different lubes, it could be a left over of a slight irritation from one of those lubes that didn't suit that got further irritated by the friction of sex.

Keep an eye on it of course, but I doubt it is serious.

My guy has a thick penis and just once in a blue moon I get a similar thing. A dab of zinc based nappy rash cream and I'm right as rain in less than 24 hours.

He is the large size, not by length so much, but more width I guess. It's been a long time since my past experiences were the one time with my ex when we tried to have sex and it was too painful for me...

Originally Posted by WildChild

If you are healthy and really aroused you shouldn't generally need lube. Are you using condoms? I find those do tend to dry me out. Could be a latex sensitivity.

Yes, we are using condoms, LifeStyle Ultra Sensitive ones. We use silicon lube since I found out I have an allergy to the other types. It only seems to sting a bit going in, then stops when we get moving. But it isn't burning, it's like a tolerable annoying slight sting and I can tolerate it only because I have a high pain tolerance.

Originally Posted by Iseulda

I agree, WC - the majority of women, when fully aroused don't need lube.

But then some do. Some women have an issue of 'drying up' (for want of a more delicate term) after a certain amount of time or just with the friction. Some women need a little extra lubrication to top up their own when with a larger partner. It does happen that a woman can be very turned on and still not produce enough natural lubrication to make sex as comfortable as it needs to be.

And some women just like the sensation. Nothing wrong with using lube.

I actually never knew that :/ I do tend to dry up though on my own, even after receiving oral sex from him, I tend to dry up a bit. And I use the lube just for personal reassurance. It's a weird thing with me. But we both like using this silicon lube, it makes everything very comfortable and nice feeling.

Is it ok to put this lube on the pubic hair. I do that and it tends to not rub up against him so much since I do shave a bit... and I don't get irritations. Or is that not a good thing? I always wash this all off after wards.

Sorry for double post.

Maybe it's because I'm not using to having a penis slightly thrusting (not fast or rough, but slow in and out but not littelry in and out ... whatever you get my point) and I'm all of a sudden able to have that.

But...

We get a little bit longer into sex and I guess it's the cervix or that bone that's in the back that you can feel yourself with masturbation ... gets a little sore and sometimes hurt a bit and I have to stop. Is it something serious or maybe because I'm just not used to it yet and it'll eventually go away? It's not dieing pain, it's like a discomfort.

Stupid question, but was just wondering.

I get slight discomfort toward the bottom of the opening if things are being done right. It's just the skin being stretched and it has to be done to get the right angle for me. Otherwise there's just much scraping of my urethral opening and banging of my cervix which is a lot more painful than stretching things the other way. There's no actual injury and it goes away within minutes.

I can occasionally be completely aroused and produce nothing for moisture. It happens. It happens even more if you take birth control. We apply gels or liquids that are suppose to increase arousal for women and that helps stimulate more lubrication. Otherwise I have a bunch of individual packets of silicone lube that we've been using. Occasionally I can be slightly aroused and produced so much fluid it dulls sensation and makes me dehydrated afterward. My body can't make up it's mind.

Originally Posted by kira

I get slight discomfort toward the bottom of the opening if things are being done right. It's just the skin being stretched and it has to be done to get the right angle for me. Otherwise there's just much scraping of my urethral opening and banging of my cervix which is a lot more painful than stretching things the other way. There's no actual injury and it goes away within minutes.

I can occasionally be completely aroused and produce nothing for moisture. It happens. It happens even more if you take birth control. We apply gels or liquids that are suppose to increase arousal for women and that helps stimulate more lubrication. Otherwise I have a bunch of individual packets of silicone lube that we've been using. Occasionally I can be slightly aroused and produced so much fluid it dulls sensation and makes me dehydrated afterward. My body can't make up it's mind.

So that slight pain/discomfort in the back in normal for me since I'm not used to it? And I can't have any of those special heating or stimulating lubes since most are glycerin based and I have an allergy to them. Mine have to be silicon. No problem though, that's why they made special places to get those, haha.