Thread: dont enjoy sex:(

i dont know which one it is , a or b..maybe a bit of both.
yeah im quiet shy meeting new people and with people in general..my self esteem is really low actually..hmm maybe i need to work on that.
im 21 yrs old.
well the guys that im sleeping with are rather nice at first but then they are only after one thing..hmmmm

You're missing a lot, girl, but it's not too late for you. I have to agree with Mes_T, you need to experience orgasm on your own first, whatever you might think can get you there. This is about exploring your own body, enjoying yourself and your sexuality. Learn to love and be comfortable with your body.

I think it can also help if you reflect on the things that can arouse you, not necessarily on the physical aspect, but emotional and intellectual as well. Maybe you don't enjoy sex because it lacks connection. As you know, majority of women love to have sex because of the deeper connection it entails.

My point is connect with yourself first, there is nothing wrong with you. You just have to know what is it that you want and need from yourself and from a relationship, and soon you will find that person whom you can totally connect with in both mind, spirit and body, where you are not afraid to lose control, where surrendering will be an ultimate experience.

Goodluck!

I think the first thing u need to do is get comfortable w urself...an makin urself orgasm. once u do that an actually get comfortable w the concept of orgasm an get in touch w ur "inner self" literally...lol...then u will find it more comfortable w someone. u could even b directin them....which will help u feel more in control which may help u w ur issues. And if ur w the right person they will understand and try to help u w it rather than shun u for something u cant really help, if u dont want to. But bein comfortable w ur partner is also very important...asms w someone u have an emotional attachment to can make a big difference. Its all bout a comfort zone hun....find it an then go from there...and dont b afraid to voice wats goin n w u w the guy ur with...if they are worth it then they will b more than willing to see this thru...an u would b amazed w how relieved u will feel jus sharin that w ur partner...might help u release n other ways!!