Thread: I have weak legs and my boyfriend feels he's doing all the work :(

My boyfriend really likes it when I ride him, but I can't do it for long because I have such weak legs/knees. My kneecap popped out a couple years ago and it still affects my knee terribly. I started working my legs out and they're actually feeling a lot stronger, but I'd like to know if anyone has any advice on strengthening my thighs/knees. I feel really bad because he can have sex for hours but it kills him to have to do all the work because my legs are so wimpy. Please help.

squats, running, stair climber

Can you hang on to something? Have him hold his hands up in front of you so you can take some of the weight off your legs.

Try getting him a little "higher".

It might be worth trying with him sitting in a chair, or sitting on the side of the bed where you can partially straighten your legs and allow them to be in a stronger position than fully bent. Then you can rock yourself rather than having to actually lift up and down so much.

Going for hours of penetration doesn't sound the least bit appealing to me... but to each their own Me and my boyfriend are both very physically fit and I just still could not imagine actively having intercourse for hours -- it would be exhausting.

Make out and play with each other and explore each others body, give each other pleasure and get each other close to orgasm in postions that are comfortable to both of you. That way when you go in for the actual sex its not heavy exercise, but just a pleasurable experience.

I work out 6 days a week and would not have the vaginal stamina, much less the energy to ride my guy for hours... no way no how. Could it be you both have unrealistic expectations for how long actual penetration should last?

If you both need it for a long period of time, its going to be tiring... so you will have to change up your ways so that neither of you is in physical discomfort. Perhaps side by side positions so that neither of you has to be up on your knees doing strenuous efforts?

I'd have to agree with HD that "hours" going at it is hard for me to imagine. But to maybe put a different twist on your issue, I would suggest that you Google sex positions. There are a number of sites that list them and not all "woman astride" postions require strong legs. There is even one device I waw a while back that fit over the man and was like a mini trampoline with the seat cut out... the name of the device escapes me at the moment... but I bet someone on this board will remember.

I'm going to agree with HD as well on the length of time... I feel like even if we have penetration for a "long" time it's probably only 15-20 minutes... Now, don't get me wrong, we may have an hour of foreplay before but the penetration lasting hours seems just a bit much!

On strengthening thighs, knees, I find the elliptical is good as well. Set it at a decent incline and resistance and you'll be burning calories and also working those thighs out without putting too much impact on your knees

Thanks, guys! He takes a really long time to come, haha. It wears me out but he's so attentive in bed and I really want to do the same by him.

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Going for hours of penetration doesn't sound the least bit appealing to me... but to each their own
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It continues to amaze me when women have this comment. There is nothing better than a guy who can keep you in the grip of overwhelming pleasure for a prolonged period. It doesn't take 'vaginal stamina' when the pleasure is intense as the only thing you are aware of is how gooooood it feels. Even if I'm feeling I may well die of pleasure, I don't want it to end.

Perhaps try both lying on your sides, facing each other with your legs/knees over his hip. If you have reasonable core strength then he can just lie back and enjoy and you can do all the moveing with no stress on your legs. Maybe have him sit on a chair and straddle him with your back to him. If you can put your hands on the chair, beside his legs, you can take most of your weight on your arms.

I can't really see a solution unless you can build up your leg strength and be sure your knee is well healed.

Don't feel bad. I got knee troubles too. I can't hold certain positions that require lots of leg strength etiher. She can go for a long time but but my legs give out. I am Upper body strong but lower body weak. Do squats if you can. I do them now and they help but I got lots of work ahead of me. Try building something that will allow you to support your legs while maintaining the postion you like. I have done this with great success.