adult video reaction

**dallas45** · 06-01-2010 10:25 AM

About a year ago, my wife and I (married nearly 15 years) were staying at her brother's vacation home. On a rainy evening we were looking for a movie to watch and came across some adult movies. My wife does not watch porn so maybe it was the glass of wine talking but she agreed.
We were "spooning" on the couch, in comfortable clothes, with her in front of me. We watched the first scene or two and made a few jokes but she did not seem the least bit turned on. The film then gets to an all girl scene. The next thing I know my wife has snuck her hand into her pants and is masturbating. She was doing this slowly and with minimal movement, like she didn't want me to know. As that scene was ending she was no longer hiding her masturbation and had worked herself to an enormous orgasm.
I have seen my wife masturbate many many times. She often incorporates it into our sex life, but I had never seen her orgasm like this from her own hand.

I have thought about this incident several times over the past year. Do you think this indicates an interest in women on her part? Or is it just a fantasy? I asked her about it that evening - if she enjoyed that scene, and she laughed it off saying that "no, it was gross." She said she was thinking about something else, but her eyes were wide as saucers and glued to the screen. Should I just let this incident go and forget about it? It wouldn't bother me one bit if she had lesbian fantasies, but I would like to know.

**WildChild** · 06-01-2010 10:31 AM

Only she can answer that question. It might be that she was connecting to what the actors might be feeling? You can do whatever they were doing, you've got hands and a tongue....

**Hopeless Dork** · 06-01-2010 11:09 AM

It sounds like maybe some 'wishful thinking' on your part? I agree with Wc... it was probably what the actors were portraying they were feeling than the fact it was a lesbian scene. Many women porn stars comment the sex on film they truly enjoy the most is girl on girl as there isn't crazy positions and pounding , just pleasure... and so maybe the more realistic reactions in the lesbian scene was more of a turn off than the girl going 'oh yeah i love it in my hair oh yeah!'... that totally put on fake stuff isn't very exciting to a woman... as they know how fake it is lol. We know men can hope that women are enjoying all of that... but I think women are more in tune with a womans real reaction.

I don't think , other than for your own fantasy benefit... its anything you should worry about. But since your not worried... but perhaps maybe 'hoping' it meant more than it did... might want to ground yourself a bit

It probably was nothing.

AK · 06-01-2010 01:14 PM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

that totally put on fake stuff isn't very exciting to a woman... as they know how fake it is lol. We know men can hope that women are enjoying all of that... but I think women are more in tune with a womans real reaction.

I don't think , other than for your own fantasy benefit... its anything you should worry about. But since your not worried... but perhaps maybe 'hoping' it meant more than it did... might want to ground yourself a bit

It probably was nothing.

I agree..but the point is, why didnt she jus turn her face and ask her man for it??? looking at the situation, riany night n a porn movie infront of them, he would have done that without a No i guess..then why did she preferred her own hand???!!

**stressed** · 06-01-2010 05:01 PM

The best oral given to a woman that I've seen in porn is in lesbian porn. It was quite a turn on, even if I'm straight, just because one of them was really good at it and the other one was also good at expressing/faking how good it was. It wasn't the fact that the person giving the oral was a woman, but the whole scene combined. Perhaps the porn actresses were doing something very good? We shouldn't neglect that she had some wine, and many women don't need more than one glass to get 'tipsy'.

What I'd be curious about would be the "something else" she was thinking of. I wonder why you didn't ask that, or why she didn't want to say. A single porn scene doesn't make somebody gay/lesbian. Since it has been bothering you for years you might want to ask her again, explaining that you can't get it out of your head. Personally, I wouldn't let it haunt me and would forget about it. I've been there myself, didn't get a straight answer, and just focused on the present. It doesn't matter what she wanted years back, what matters is that she wants you today for who you are and nobody else.

**stressed** · 06-01-2010 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by Enna Khan

I agree..but the point is, why didnt she jus turn her face and ask her man for it??? looking at the situation, riany night n a porn movie infront of them, he would have done that without a No i guess..then why did she preferred her own hand???!!

Why didn't her man jump in and watched instead? It goes both ways...

**dallas45** · 06-02-2010 07:58 AM

Thanks for all the thoughtful responses. I don't think it has bothered me for years, but I have thought about it once in a while. I guess I will just let the matter drop as it would seem odd to bring it up so many months later. As for why she didn't ask me for it or why I didn't jump in, well, if she is really going at it on her own she likes to go ahead and finish. We both enjoy masturbation and it is a part of our sexual relationship. Sometimes she wants me just to watch her and then she watches me. I have no problem with that and never once thought "why didn't she ask me to do that?" Interesting thought/question. I also never felt threatened by the situation, just...curious about what she was thinking. I guess if there is something there that she is curious about, or even wanted to try, then eventually she would tell me. I can say that after all these years I still trust her completely. She is a tremendous woman that I still find so beautiful in so many ways.

**LilahX** · 06-03-2010 12:39 AM

Your wife sounds very much like me - and they're not lesbian fantasies, they're bisexual fantasies. Big difference. Since I was 12 I've fantasised about women and in the last few years have finally made my fantasy reality. Emotionally I have no interest in women and love my man passionately, but sexually women arouse me more than men - which isn't to say that my sex life with guys isn't awesome, it is.

We are swingers so are very open about fantasies and most become reality and my guy was more than supportive of me exploring my bi side both on my own and with him. It's too late now to bring up the movie incident, but perhaps bring it into one of your sexual conversation from the perspective of it would arouse you so it's not coming across as pressure on her - see what sort of response you get. If she's still in denial (I don't believe her response to your question about the scene for one moment lol), then leave it but if she shows a glimpse of interest then you can pursue it further - either just sticking to movies or shared fantasy, or in real terms.

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