It's not the size, but what you do with it... so what should I do with it?

**MiniVanMan** · 06-02-2010 05:07 PM

Been reading an old thread about penis size, and seeing several responses from women who say "It's not the size that matters, it's what you do with it that counts".

So, okay. I'm game. Mine is average size. It suits me just fine (wife too). But what exactly does "it's what you do with it" mean? It's not like I have a prehensile penis that can go in and wiggle around and poke and prod every which way. It goes in. It goes out. I can angle it a little differently, side-to-side, up or down. But what else?

Are you talking about staying power?
Should I thwack you in the face with it?

Do jumping jacks to make it bounce up and down?

Dress it up like a puppet and speak in a high squeaky voice?

Seriously. What is it that the best lovers do with their penis that makes it so good for you?

If I get some interesting suggestions, I'm going to try them on my wife.

**sourpuss** · 06-02-2010 05:29 PM

Haha! That made me laugh.
I think the 'it's what you do with it' is more of a euphemism for 'what you do in bed'. From kissing and all the other fun foreplay stuff, making love to straight up quickie sex.
For me, size really doesn't matter, it's about the whole experience.

**LanaBear** · 06-02-2010 05:32 PM

lol - I agree with sp. To me, it doesn't mean what you do with 'it' specifically penis. 'It' means everything, the whole experience, hands, fingers, kissing, sensuality, pleasure, rubbing... Everything, the whole kit and caboodle.

**PJhavinfunagain** · 06-02-2010 05:49 PM

Kudo's to you for asking Minivanman!

I agree with the other gals... I have been around the block more than my fair share. Of Long term relationships DH does have the smallest member (he is average I'd guess 5 1/2"). But he pleases me in ways no other ever has.

I admit I almost cried the first 2 times we had sex (it was not great, He had not been intimate with someone in a long time and I was just out of a bad relationship that did have awesome sex) but after that WOW... Did he knock my socks off with his loving caring ways.

I was with many guys who thought all they had to do was stick it in and I would think he was a god... no matter how big you are if a woman is not properly aroused it isn't going to do much for us.

**MiniVanMan** · 06-02-2010 06:42 PM

Well dang it! I was hoping for some magical penis woman-voodoo advice, and all I got was "be caring, sensual, lots of foreplay, etc.".

I already knew that!

Oh, well.

**sourpuss** · 06-02-2010 07:02 PM

Haha, love the title and the thumbs down. You crack me up.

Originally Posted by MiniVanMan

Well dang it! I was hoping for some magical penis woman-voodoo advice, and all I got was "be caring, sensual, lots of foreplay, etc.".

I already knew that!

Oh, well.

Well, most guys know that, but if they actually take the time an effort to do it is another story all together. ...and that's what separates the men from the boys, IMO.

**LilahX** · 06-02-2010 09:17 PM

While I do agree that all the 'other stuff' plays a big part in how a woman rates a guy as a lover, I also think that knowing 'what to do with it' does relate to what you do with it. A guy who takes the time to observe what (angle, position, rhythym etc) works best for his lady gets better results. I've had guys just put it in and I feel nothing, and a few who (for whatever reason - and nothing to do with size) just bring me instant, overwhelming pleasure. TO me they 'know what to do with it' and it had nothing to do with what went on beforehand.

I don't think there's any 'trick', it's just being observant and caring enough to want to k now what works best and then doing it. I've had guys who have chanced upon something that feels awesome which elicits very vocal response from me - yet they then change to doing something different. My only conclusion is they either think whatever they do will have the same response (no), or they haven't really noticed my response and are more intent on what feels good for them.

Good on you for asking!

**Beautiful Disaster** · 06-03-2010 07:02 AM

I'm not even going to say that it's foreplay....but more so the mans knowing the womans body enough to try to imagine what certain things might feel like to her. And you have to know your womans specific needs. For instance, I need a change in speed and intensity. Can't just climb on and go with the flow for 15 minutes, same speed, same intensity and expect anything magical to happen in my netherlands.

Go fast and easy (yeah, strange combo, but magical) sometimes, and slow and hard other times. Change it up abit. And much like a guy, if you're doing something that really seems to be rocking her world, keep it up for a while, don't change it up right in the middle of the big O.

So yeah....it is all in how you use it. I don't expect it to perform magical tricks or do cartwheels...... but there's a whole MAN of control behind that thing, and I want to feel that.

LOVE your picture.