Thread: Bf looking at porn, it's sure different when you're not the reader and it happens 2 u

I dont think guys do it specifically to hurt their significant other. Its a selfish act that has nothing to do with anything but them and what they want in that moment.

I think the only thing a woman faced with a guy that would rather give his sexual attention to pictures of girls on the internet than to her is to get her sexual attention eslewhere.

I'm not advocating cheating, I'm fully against it. But there are safe and distant ways for women to get sexual attention from men when their own man is too busy giving his to random porn chicks to give it to her.

I don't think its possible for a man to understand the mind-ferk hurt involved for a woman that wants nothing more to have sex with her s.o but he won't or can't because he's already spent his sexual energy on internet pr0nz. So its pointless to try to explain it. And 'controlling' to try to get him to change it.

The best she can do is find her own way to get her need for sexual attention met in similar 'safe and distant' way to his porn use. If he happens to want her and she's already taken care of and isn't interested... it should not be hard for him to digest as he built the situation.

Originally Posted by SaharaJim

Have you ladies considered that the issue MAY be one of "control?" Men when they marry give up the right to have sex with anyone else.

And women don't?

Originally Posted by Fallen1

And women don't?

Of course they do. What I was asking though is what about "other " forms of sexual expression. Do you hear men seeking to ban the "bodice-riper" romantic novels? Or complaining that they can't compare with DIRK MANLEY in the novel so the novels are ruining their sex life? What i am hearing is some women feel threatened and insecure so that seek to "control" men's viewing of porn. I don't mean to come onto a WOMAN's forum and argue with you. I just am suggesting that you say you can't understand why men watch porn and then lie when questioned about it. What did you expect. He is going to say:" yes dear I know this hurts and offends you - that's why I do it" WHY does he need to "justify" it? Because some women feel insecure about it? So if he feels "insecure " about her having employment she shouldn't?