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    What causes some women to not achieve orgasm in certain positions.. when they had no trouble in the past...????
    Is it age, expansion after child birth, stimuli, lack of variety,.... all of these, care to share thoughts?

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    I suppose it could be all of these if im honest?
    There are some positions that i used to love and have amazing orgasms too, which now i cant. Im 24, and have no kids. So i just assumed that i had it in that position too often and that i needed a change.
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    I think it can be lots of things... For example: I used to love being on top but I am more subconconscious about my weight than I used to be so I find it somewhat distracting to be on top unless I have my tummy covered (skirt pulled up over or a nightie on). Also could be like Joey said above with maybe doing it too much and getting "used" to it maybe? Medications sometimes play a role if those have changed, things like that.
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    It could depend on alot of things. I never exactly orgasmed from sex with my ex, but there were times where it was close...it felt good, and then other days same position, and nothing...not even half as pleasurable. He was the only person I have ever dated that was un-circumcised so i think that played a role in it. i know sometimes his foreskin would slide up just as sex was feeling really good and that would kill it for me. And that was more of a problem in some positions.

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    Depends whether you're talking about with the same person. For me, with some guys I've felt absolutely nothing, and with others it's been mindblowing - same positions. I figured it was just a combination of their shape and mine, sometimes it matches, sometimes it doesn't.

    If you're talking about with the same guy then maybe your state of mind might be playing a part, or degree of arousal, time of the month, could be a myriad of reasons. All I know is that it's never the same anytime.

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    Climax is so much a mental state. Physical things have to be at least OK, but without the mental state, climax is very unlikely. Other things come into arousal, also, such as lighting, sound, touch smell, maybe pheromones and others.

    Maybe the situation has become familiar, so the mental arousal and excitation isn't there. Maybe the smell of the partner's body has changed, or a different partner has a different smell. Maybe the feel of the partner's skin isn't as it was before. Maybe the partner no longer moves his body as he did before. Maybe the look of desire in his face and eyes isn't as it was. Maybe it has been replaced with boredom, entitlement, possessiveness or some other look. Attempting to force a mental state usually doesn't work.

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    I have been with the same man 27 years, Married 25, (in 3 days...)

    I guess i am trying to figure out why a couple positions that used to be multiple delights are no longer even singles...

    I have not noticed a change in scent, or touch. I am sensory oriented, even to the point of shaking after orgasm. However, I think you may be on to something.. about his face and eyes though. Thanks, everyone...!

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