Thread: Whats happened to the sex?!

Hi ! I'm 22 and so is my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years and now live together. He was my first boyfriend when I was 15 and we know each other very well. Since I moved in to his parents house the sex is rare and also extremely lazy. I give him blow jobs almost daily and we only have sex 1/2 times a week (if that) and I get nothing in return. If we do have sex foreplay seems not to be an option. I do everything he wants I dress up in outfits and everything. But he does nothing. Its starting to really get me down I feel so unattractive and my confidence is gone. I think I might just be giving him everything and maybe just need to play hard to get? I don't know I've tried everything I've tried talking to him and he assures me its not me and it will get better but it hasn't. I can't even remember the last time I climaxed during sex. Its tiring me out always trying to look attractive for him and I just want to scream as he is so lazy with sex and everything else for that matter. Please help its driving me insane!

Many guys only desire or are able to achieve 1 orgasm in a day/ sex session. If you are giving him oral to completion every single day, you, yourself, are reducing his ability to perform with you afterwards. On a day you want sex, just do not complete him orally so that he can finish during sex with you. There is no reason his foreplay to you should be as lacking with as giving as you are being to him.

Have you tried masturbating during sex with him to help you climax? Or you can also masturbate for him/with him before sex to get yourself (and him) heated up so that it will be easier for you to orgasm during sex... this can also show him how you like to be touched.

Its sounds like he's being lazy because you enable him to be. I'm not saying this is your fault but its like your giving him all the candy , not asking him to brush his teeth... and wondering why he's got a cavity. Start only giving up 1/2 the candy, start asking him to brush his teeth

You will find a surprising number of women in this situation. There have been a lot of posts on this that are worth reading. Basically though, it is NOT your fault. There are a lot of men who lose interest in sex and become bad, selfish and lazy lovers. Not all (or even most) men are like this, so maybe you should move on.

Could have something to do with the psychology of living at home with his parents, too. You need to find a way out of that; if only for an evening - go to a local (or not so local...) hotel for a little private time, and see if the change of scenery makes any difference.

If he doesn't think there's a problem then nothing will change. Yes, being in his parents home could obviously dampen his enthusiasm but why can't he articulate that? Have you tried a 'dirty weekend away', or necking in the car or something away from the house? If he's not interested in any of that, then maybe he's just over the whole r/ship. Sorry.