Thread: boyfriend says I'm bad at it

Leave him a note that says "It's over. And by the way, I've been faking it the whole time hoping you'd get better."

Ok ok, well....I guess that would be "mean" but honestly, doesn't sound like he deserves much better than that. One way to scar someone and give them a complex for years and years to come is to tell them they're bad at sex. A good partner will know that not all guys like the same thing, and he will have to lead you and show you what he likes a bit.

Seriously though, do you fake orgasms with him? I mean, you probably do, right? And if you do, then it's not like he's totally pleasing you either....so do you tell him he's "bad" at it? No...because you're not insensitive, shallow, arrogant, and mean. On the contrary, he is. Time to cut your ties and find someone you can have GREAT experiences with instead of hanging around for someone that doesn't respect or appreciate you.

Yes, you need to ditch this loser. I think that his behavior is immature and borderline abusive. It is just going to get worse over time. Potentially much worse. Just for the record, I have never personally experienced "bad" oral sex. The worst that I have ever had was wonderful.

Good luck,

Mav