Different Strokes...
I am 50 and my BF is 64, he is in excellent physical shape. The problem is that I don't seem to arouse him. He definately can please me but I feel that he deserves more. Other men in my past have told me that I am great with sex. But he is so different than anyone I have ever met. He may have some ED but what can I do to help him get aroused when he says he is horney????
Have you asked him?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
ED is not your fault. Horny is often in the mind and then our physical beings react to that desire. So if he's feeling horny and expressing that to you, then it sounds like he's attracted to you, turned on by you, and wants to to the mattress mamba. But he is suffering from some ED and just can't quite make his body match his mind.
If you make it about you, and you use it as fuel to feel bad about yourself...... you will not only worsen the problem for him but you'll make yourself miserable.
Does he get aroused at other times? If so, when?
I agree with BDisaster, it is a mind thing and that you should not feel bad about ED. Its something that you can play around with find what works and what does not. There are lots of ways we can please our lovers, open communication about what you want is key.
Bubbles
How long have you been together? He may feel some anxiety over the 14 yrs difference... He seems to be ok, with pleasing you, or he could have baggage, meaning not long left a relationship and can't warm to you both yet.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I have to agree with WC, you need to ask him.
May be ED and a trip to the doctor for the little blue pill could be in order.
There will always be boundries, but making love is so different, than having sex, let's face it. CW
In response to C W, We have been together for over a year and 1/2 and I know the age difference is not the problem. We have takled about it some but I get the feeling he is implying that I am inexperienced. Maybe that is just a cover up for his problem. After all we are not spring chickens any more. Thanks for the responses.
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