Will it hurt your feelings...?

**Maximus** · 07-13-2010 03:02 AM

Will it hurt your feelings if your man wants to show on you should be giving him oral sex ?

Thanks for the feedback

V.

**stressed** · 07-13-2010 04:31 AM

Do you mean if he'd show you how to give him oral sex? Like, tell you or show you what to do?
No, it wouldn't. I actually ask him to tell me what feels better for him, what is it he likes more and so on, but he just says "everything feels good". It's always good to get some feedback, otherwise you'll never know whether what you do is good or not.

What has hurt me was him suggesting in a jokingly way that I should get a book about penises, since I don't know how to give handjobs or oral. That was a long time ago, he claimed he just joked, but it wasn't nice to hear.

**WildChild** · 07-13-2010 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by Virgile

Will it hurt your feelings if your man wants to show on you should be giving him oral sex ?

Thanks for the feedback

V.

Personally unless he's willing and eager to give as good as he gets - my ears are locked down closed and so are my lips.

**Maximus** · 07-13-2010 08:53 AM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Personally unless he's willing and eager to give as good as he gets - my ears are locked down closed and so are my lips.

This is a tricky rule you have there, my dear...
If one would apply the other may never receive until "the subject of the thread" is dealt with

**SaharaJim** · 07-13-2010 10:01 AM

One hundred and on ways to communicate your needs to a man or a woman. Silence is NOT one of them. Take care and consideration as t when and how...but COMMUNICATE- very few women and no men are mind readers. LOL

**WildChild** · 07-13-2010 12:17 PM

Originally Posted by Virgile

This is a tricky rule you have there, my dear...
If one would apply the other may never receive until "the subject of the thread" is dealt with

Nothing tricky about it, I've done years of giving without getting. I'm done.

**purplehaze** · 07-13-2010 02:25 PM

Oh WC you are a wise one and I second your comments......

**jns** · 07-13-2010 06:16 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Personally unless he's willing and eager to give as good as he gets - my ears are locked down closed and so are my lips.

No problem. There are plenty of guys willing to get the ball rolling although I'm sure a lot of them are locked in relationships.

**Hopeless Dork** · 07-13-2010 09:42 PM

Your neighbor asks if you can mow their lawn, you aren't familiar with their grass or maybe you have never even mowed a lawn before... but you try anyway, you want to be a good neighbor. Instead of thanking you after your done... they only tell you that you didn't get the grass as short as they wanted and say hey next time i'll tell you how its done. Uh... you might not want to do it again next time.

It all depends on the approach like with any other critique. Rule of thumb is 2 positives for every negative, and sandwich the negative inbetween the positives.

A critique that spares feelings and is pretty much going to spark enthusiasm for trying something new:

You always look so pretty when you go down on me...its such a turn on for me to see you like that. I would really like you to try touching me a special way that will drive me crazy!! Can I show you? Your hands are so soft and your mouth so warm, you always make me feel good, so I can't wait to feel you do this. I'd love for you to show me something I can do to make you feel better too!

Critiques that will make a girl feel under appreciated, unskilled, humiliated and likely not too enthusiastiac to try anything new:

Anything that compliments a former partners skills above your currents...

Anything that is said with a harsh, upset tone...

Anything that implies lack of gratitude for her attempts at making you feel good...

Anything that doesnt also shine any light on anything good she does..

Anything that doesn't also offer to accept direction on what you do too..

**Maximus** · 07-13-2010 11:48 PM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Your neighbor asks if you can mow their lawn, you aren't familiar with their grass or maybe you have never even mowed a lawn before... but you try anyway, you want to be a good neighbor. Instead of thanking you after your done... they only tell you that you didn't get the grass as short as they wanted and say hey next time i'll tell you how its done. Uh... you might not want to do it again next time.

It all depends on the approach like with any other critique. Rule of thumb is 2 positives for every negative, and sandwich the negative inbetween the positives.

A critique that spares feelings and is pretty much going to spark enthusiasm for trying something new:

You always look so pretty when you go down on me...its such a turn on for me to see you like that. I would really like you to try touching me a special way that will drive me crazy!! Can I show you? Your hands are so soft and your mouth so warm, you always make me feel good, so I can't wait to feel you do this. I'd love for you to show me something I can do to make you feel better too!

Critiques that will make a girl feel under appreciated, unskilled, humiliated and likely not too enthusiastiac to try anything new:

Anything that compliments a former partners skills above your currents...

Anything that is said with a harsh, upset tone...

Anything that implies lack of gratitude for her attempts at making you feel good...

Anything that doesnt also shine any light on anything good she does..

Anything that doesn't also offer to accept direction on what you do too..

Thanks for the feedback !!! Very much appreciated.