Thread: no feeling during intercourse & other worries

so, my girlfriend has no feeling at all during intercourse. we've had sex 5 times now, and she was a virgin at first. it still hurts her when i first penetrate her, and after a few seconds it stops and then she can just feel nothing inside.
we use a condom, she doesnt use pills and she doesnt seem stressed at all. she does enjoy stimulation of the clitoris, especially oral. unfortunately she had never reached an orgasm.
also, i hope this doesnt make any difference, but im afraid that i might be on the small side and that could be the cause (5.5-6 inches).

also, she feels like she has to pee when i touch her g-spot, but nothing more, especially not pleasuring.


one more problem i have is that i constantly fear my sperm might somehow get inside when we use a condom (i have something like really small ejaculations before i actually come to an orgasm). sometimes i look and i see a white fluid inside (seems like its about to sneak out from the condom) which is probably just the lube on the condom, but is there a reason to worry?

thanks a lot

First off the condom. A condom is 99% effective when used properly. If you follow the insructions on the box you should have no problem. Just roll it down from the tip to the base and make sure it fits snug. Just don't remain inside her too long after you cum because this will increase your chances of "leaking". I know it's tempting to just colapse on the spot. But make sure you pull out first.

Next 5 1\5 inches is pretty standard. I don't think you will have problems with that size. If your worry is that you are not going in deep enough try putting a pillow under her butt so that her bottom is turned upward a bit. This will allow for deeper penetration. Doggy Style also allows for deeper penetration but she may not be ready for that yet. Which brings me to the next topic.

If she has only had sex five times then don't get discouraged just yet. It usually takes a while for a women to start to enjoy sex. You will need to experiment a little with positions. I have found that out of about million different positions that I couldn't reach orgasam in most of them. Most girls have a few positions that they favor and she will have to find her's. This may take a few tries and that's ok. If you haven't already have her get on top. So that she can control the speed and angle and find out what she likes.

But just remember that if she sees that you are discouraged then she will also get discouraged. So avoid saying things like "what am I doing wrong" but rather things like "I want you to enjoy this as much as I do , so tell me when I do something you like" and it won't be long before you two are rockin the sheets. lol

But your lucky in one way. She's being honest with you. I hear of so many girls complaining that they can't get off, so they fake it. Why on earth would you fake it. Because that guy won't try to improve if he thinks he's doing a wonderful job. So honest communication with your partner is the key. And there is nothing wrong with talking your way though sex. It can even be fun, make a game out of it. Find a book of sex positions or go online with your partner (be careful there you will most likely have to weed your way throught the porn sites) and find a a few positions that look interesting and try then. Without focusing on orgasam as the goal. Instead the goal should be learning each others likes and dislikes and exploring each others bodys. And the orgasams will come. (no pun intended

If she feels like she has to pee then that is perfectly normal. It happens sometimes during intercourse and is perfectly natural. Though if she is worried just have her pee before sex and you won't have to worry about any "accidents" which can be very embaressing and uncomfortable. It's also important for a women to pee after sex to flush out any thing that may have made it's way into her urinary tract. This will help her prevent infection. But it may just be a sign that she is about to orgasam.


P.S- I am much more comfortable with a 5 to 7 size than I am with a 7 1\2 or more. I think, for me, anything bigger than 7 is just too much and painful but all girls are different. I think men would be surprised to find out just how little difference size makes to most women. And a large penis is not the important part when it come sto pleasing a women. Good luck Kdlos. I am sure yall will have a great sex life if you work on it but don't worry yourself so much about it. Or you will take all the fun out of it. And if the condon thing still bothers you, practice putting one on when your alone. Make sure it feels right, and fits properly. Because it's more difficult to learn how to put one on if your about to have sex.

Hope I helped.

5.5-6" is normal, so it is not your size. Leaking a little out of the end of your penis prior to orgasm (ejaculation) is also normal. This "pre-come" can contain sperm, so its important to put on the condom before entering your partner. After you orgasm, hold the base of the condom tight against your body and withdraw before you lose your errection. If you do things this way, then the chance of an accident is minimal. The white stuff that you see on the outside of the condom is a mixture of lube and her own natural lubrication. That's a good thing and nothing to worry about.

Your partner is relatively inexperienced. Spend lots of time during foreplay getting her ready (wet) and this should eliminate the pain from penetration. If not, use a bit of lube to slick things up. Women vary on what they feel during penetration. Some reach orgasm easily from penetration but many do not. The vagina itself does not have a lot of nerve endings. If it did, childbirth would likely be fatal! Most stimulation from penetration comes from G-spot contact or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Try spending more time teasing her clit with oral or manual stimulation. Be patient. If she is relaxed and does not sense impatience in you, she is more likely to orgasm. The urge to pee during G-spot stimulation is normal. As mentioned above, just have her pee before sex to avoid any accidents.

First off, thanks a lot for the help.

I still dont understand - is it ok for her to not feel ANY stimulation when i touch the g-spot? whether it is with my hand or during intercourse, she feels nothing other than the 'need to pee' feeling.
we're tried a LOT of foreplay and she got all wet and horny, and that makes penetration easier but still nothing on the G-Spot, and it comes to a situation where we only do intercourse because I enjoy it.
What can I do to try and stimulate her through the g-spot?