How long does your man last?

**wannapleaseher** · 07-29-2010 10:44 AM

Ladies, I would really want to hear your honest experiences with men in your life.

The question is simple. What is the shortest time AND longest time that your man can perform actual penetration with you? Don't count any foreplay time please.

Reason I ask is while I'm very "generous" in bed with foreplay, hands and oral sex, I can't last nearly as long as I want to during penetration. And it just feels like a physical problem. Sure there might be some anxiety too...but mainly it feels like my penis can't phycially deal with too much friction.

This is really bumming me out, as I'm a dude that REALLY wants to make her cum..and not just with oral sex or fingering. Sure that's great. But let's be honest, both men and women would love to cum with vaginal sex too.

My question is to find out the truth from the women here (men can share their experiences and thoughts too)...what do you really get from your man.

I want to judge whether I have a big problem or a small problem

Thanks to all who respond.

P.S. You know what bums me out ladies...there are many men who are actually dull and unimaginative in bed...only looking to cum themselves. I'm in the camp of guys, who are very adventurous and care about a women's pleasure (ideally leave 'em exhausted!)...but , while my intentions, ideas and creativity is there in abundance (and been told I'm very good with my mouth)...my little fireman needs to be on duty for much longer! LOL

It's like my little fireman get's burnt in the fire too quickly..for him to put out the girl's fire

There's an image for you

Anyway, look forward to hearing your thoughts.

**Olympia** · 07-29-2010 10:58 AM

The shortest amount of time, i guess would be about 10 minutes. The longest amount of time, well.... between 2 and 3hours. But he may take a breather for a moment, give me several kisses -n- nibbles.... and then off we go again..But this depends, sometimes the intensity is so strong and other times it is gliding and a gradual build. (in other words, not always fully erect, but erect enough)

**WildChild** · 07-29-2010 11:05 AM

I had an ex with PE (he was doing good if he got all the way in, so much for the no sex before marriage theory) and another who (I kid you not) could run an endurance test of 5 or 6 hours, which was not really pleasurable at all. What really counts is connection and orgasm. Some women don't orgasm with vaginal penetration, personally I love it and crave it. If you are bringing your lady to orgasm and paying attention to her arousal, I bet you're fine.
As for getting "burned", she may not be staying wet enough, if you are use condoms and/or lube you may want to look at possible hypersensitivity to latex or paraben or something in the spermicide or lube.

**Hopeless Dork** · 07-29-2010 11:40 AM

For me great sex is not about the duration but the build up before it and intensity during it... regardless of time. I'm a flexible girl but with past partners I can remember being bored with them wanting to see how many positions they can shove into a session when it becomes more about showmanship than pleasure its dull.

If my guy is super excited and aroused and so am I, I want to the heat to be brought and if its a quickie, its all good, more than good and if its longer slower love-making its all good as well.

If you want your signficant to orgasm with you or during sex and don't last so long then bring her to the BRINK... the almost over the edge but not quite point then proceed to intercourse. That will be a win-win for both of you. I don't care if my orgasm is before sex, during, after or all three, I don't care if my guy takes a long time to orgasm or does so quicker... its all about being close and pleasure and making out before hand and snuggling and touching and caressing after.

Eye contact, words, sounds, scents, passion... are what make great sex to me. Its in the touches, the desire to please and be pleased... I could careless about marathon sex. And just because a guy can go for hours doesn't mean he is any more likely to bring his woman to orgasm... since as others pointed out there is more to it than that for most women.

Now a guy that didn't provide foreplay, wasn't passionate and intimate and spending time finding ways to please and just stuck it in and out and done and rolled over and went to bed... yeah, that wouldn't be fun. But neither would all those same things with the guy sticking it and out and over again for hours until done rolling over and going to bed.

Most of the women I know that are frustrated with sex is over their partners lack of consideration for their pleasure, and not duration -- they complain about it whether the guy lasts short or long, if he doesn't explore their body with his hands and mouth if he isn't affectionate and intimate the sex is usually terrible, even with 20 positions and 2 hours on the clock.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 07-29-2010 12:25 PM

Be patient with yourself. The loads of foreplay are quite possibly getting you SO worked up that by the time your "fireman" gets some attention, he's ready to explode upon impact.

I've been with a guy that literally came as he entered me. Another guy would cum within a minute or so of really getting going. Even my last BF who could cum multiple times without losing his erection, would cum the first time within 1 minute of intercourse.

It's not uncommon to have that prob. Just gotta do some working on it. Try "rubbin one out" before an evening with your lady. Maybe that will ease the urgency to cum when you start intercourse. Also, while having sex when you feel like you're going to cum, try stopping for a second...tell her "don't move". One of my guys used to tell me that....and it was actually sort of a turn out to know how turned on he was but that he was trying SO hard to last to please me.

Don't beat yourself up......just beat yourself off.

**pretzel** · 07-29-2010 12:44 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

Be patient with yourself. The loads of foreplay are quite possibly getting you SO worked up that by the time your "fireman" gets some attention, he's ready to explode upon impact.

I've been with a guy that literally came as he entered me. Another guy would cum within a minute or so of really getting going. Even my last BF who could cum multiple times without losing his erection, would cum the first time within 1 minute of intercourse.

It's not uncommon to have that prob. Just gotta do some working on it. Try "rubbin one out" before an evening with your lady. Maybe that will ease the urgency to cum when you start intercourse. Also, while having sex when you feel like you're going to cum, try stopping for a second...tell her "don't move". One of my guys used to tell me that....and it was actually sort of a turn out to know how turned on he was but that he was trying SO hard to last to please me.

Don't beat yourself up......just beat yourself off.

Sound advice until you get to the age where "one and done" takes on a whole new meaning.

But if I'd have to make suggestions, yours as well as the other fine ladies have already pointed out what every guy should be aware of.

**maverick** · 07-29-2010 02:54 PM

Another option to the "rubbing one out" tactic, is to simply orgasm once with your partner, resume foreplay, and after a few minutes, go for two. Few women will complain and you are pretty much guaranteed to last longer the 2nd time around.

**holetoledo** · 07-29-2010 03:15 PM

Shortest.. I think maybe a half hour or a little more. The longest we've ever gone was two but it wasn't that enjoyable to me even if we did have a couple breaks in between. At that point it felt more like a workout than sex. I don't know, he jerks off a lot so I think he has more control over his orgasms. He once jerked off four times in a row in one night and he doesn't care if it hurts his balls, he's such a masochist lol. I also heard that pulling your balls down can prevent ejaculation, or if you squeeze the head of your penis really hard but who wants to do that? Ouch, that sounds painful..

**Rediscovered** · 07-29-2010 03:23 PM

You could possibly try what is called "gentle intercourse" which just means you only do enough thrusting to keep hard, but otherwise, there is a lot of stillness while still continuing to caress and kiss each other. My lover and I do this a lot and I cannot tell you how much better my orgasms feel when they finally do come. Absolutely mind-numbing, lol.

I also agree with the others where possibly you could come through oral or hand-job *first* then go for intercourse later.

**PandaPaws** · 07-29-2010 04:21 PM

My goodness, 5 or 6 hours? That is insane! We'd have to stop for a lunch break! Haha.

Anyway, my experience really varies. Sometimes we do a lot of foreplay, sometimes not. And sometimes he will last a long time, honestly I've never timed it, maybe an hour including the foreplay for a long session. I mean sometimes we can get in done in probably less than 10 minutes though if we cut right to the chase. If we're trying to go for a "decent" length session and he's too turned on, he'll thrust a little, then take it out and kiss and caress me, then put it back in, etc. Kind of a major tease for me, but it helps the experience to last longer. And I love it no matter what the style is anyway, he is a great lover. He did try condoms that were meant to make him last longer, and those were kind of numbing, so he didn't like them. And he used a ring before, but it kind of cut off the circulation to his penis, so he didnt like that either.