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    me an my girlfriend have an amazing relationship, get along like house on fire love each other which is odd cause we have only been together for 5 so months. but we both agree it just feels perfect etc..
    its just one side seems to be lacking, i dont feel like i turn her on enough or stir the desire for her to have relations with me. she says she would love to be intimate or please me but shes to tired, bad mood or even that she wanted to but just forgot an fell asleep. now i may only be that im a fiend i dont ever press her for sex but at this early in relationship i feel like she should be jumping at the oppurtunity for us to be intimate. please shed some light on it, she can read me like a book an knows when somethings up an last thing i want is it to get in way of us being happy.

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    I completely agree. Just make sure when You do talk to her don't make it sound like the issue is all her or like you're being selfish. Just ask if there is anything bothering her, if there is anything you can do for her...be it physically or emotionally. And based on what her reaction or comments may be Just try to be there for her 100% in what ever way she needs you to be. Oh and just reassure her that you care about her and her feelings.

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    What the others have said, plus: when you talk, put it on yourself: Ask her what you're doing wrong? Or not doing?
    Don't under any circumstance make it sound like you're blaming her.

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    dreadz,
    You state this...
    she says she would love to be intimate or please me but shes to tired, bad mood or even that she wanted to but just forgot an fell asleep. now i may only be that im a fiend i dont ever press her for sex but at this early in relationship i feel like she should be jumping at the oppurtunity for us to be intimate.
    Communication is a priority in a relationship.. (a good listener) If she states she is tired, ask .. Can i help you to relax, give you a back rub, leg rub, foot rub.. draw you a bath.?? Bad mood, she states.. ask, do you wish to talk about it..? If so.. gives her an oportunity to release/vent.. It will help you/r relationship, and lets you get to know her much better!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Olympia View Post

    Communication is a priority in a relationship.. (a good listener) If she states she is tired, ask .. Can i help you to relax, give you a back rub, leg rub, foot rub.. draw you a bath.?? Bad mood, she states.. ask, do you wish to talk about it..? If so.. gives her an oportunity to release/vent.. It will help you/r relationship, and lets you get to know her much better!
    My thoughts exactly!

    Communication is so important. Until you can openly talk about everything, you will be at a stand still.

    She's got to be willing to put forth the effort as well. Baby steps. She's got to be able to say to herself come he|| or high water, I will make the effort at least once a week for the next month. Then increase it to twice. Pretty soon, the more she has is intimate with you, the more she'll want it. The more she can just let herself get past some things, the easier it will be for her to be able to have some extreme pleasure before tiredness knocks her out. It's hard, but if she wants it, she can do it.

    Can you try for intimacy at different times? Morning or before dinner? The later it gets, the easier it is for tiredness to win.
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