Thread: Help please!!! =(

First of all, im a guy and i know this is a Women only forum im Sooooo Sorry, but this is problably the ONLY place im sure i can get help and advice.

Please Help me out here...
Im 21 me and my love were still virgins, but its my fault not hers, i have a problem and im depressed over it. Just to make it clear im not small im around average around 7'5 etc, thats not the problem my concern here is...Her Pleasure.

True most guys dont care about the Pleasure of a women but I Truly do about mine, I love her to death and I want to make her feel like a Princess but heres the thing, from everything ive read, its really hard to give a women an Orgasm and im realllyy scared.


My girlfriend masturbates, ive seen her, using Vibrators, and also Humping Soft fabric, rubbing herself on Pillows etc, and it makes her wild now here the thing, I know Intercourse wont feel as good to her than it is to me but, will i ever be able to pleasure her like she does herself?


Im really depressed...i feel Un-wanted and...Un-Attractive, i want to be able to make her feel good, but right now the only thing that i think will make her feel good is if I put a Soft Fabric like a pillow on top of me while she rubs it, like masturbating, other than that i really dont know....


I feel so stupid for some reason but i really care about her and i want to make her feels good, but im not sure cause...i mean im not as Soft or Fluffy as A pillow or im not as Fast as A vibrator etc so..

I really dont know what to do...i feel like im worthless for her =(

im just depressed....and im starting to feel afraid..cause I know she can pleasure me but idk i can or can pleasure her more than the things she does etc..


I really need help most likely soon, well move in together and yeah something will happen...but im really..idk just Lost really i need you girls Help please, Serious Help.

I think she is a very lucky girl to have a man so concerned for her pleasure. You have to put this all in its proper perspective and your fears will be alleviated. You probably masturbate right? You probably still want, or want even more for your girlfriend to be the one giving you pleasure than yourself... right? It will be the same for her.

Some women have trouble/aren't able to orgasm, true... but many many can and easily so. You have one REALLY good thing on your side... she sounds like a woman in touch with her sexuality. This will make your job WAY, WAY easier. If she masturbates often... she can orgasm, she knows what feels good to her, she's not shy at showing you what feels good to her... and all of those things will make it so much easier for you to learn how to please her.

Trust that she will get more pleasure rubbing up against the man she loves and is physically attracted to than she would an inanimate pillow, that is no competition for you. The kissing, the unexpected touches, the excitement in your breath and eyes when your with her... all of that stuff is SO much more fun and pleasurable than just masturbating alone with a dildo.

She can show you how she touches herself, and you can mimic it. You can encourage her to touch herself while you guys have sex, or use toys during the action and slowly wean off them as you each get more use to the physical sensations she needs to orgasm.

She needs you just as much as you need her... and you are in a good position to have a really happy and healthy sex life since your girlfriend sounds like she is open to it. You just have to relax and remember she loves you and is into you or you would have never seen her sexy side... she shares that with you because it adds to her thrill... so just enjoy it, and let her find the enjoyment your body can provide her as well.

Why do you feel worthless to her?

It sounds as if you're beating yourself up over something that hasn't even happened. You're psyching yourself out.

A penis inside her vagina will feel MUCH different than a vibrator. Humping you will feel MUCH different than humping fabric. It's a whole different experience. And yes, maybe she can bring herself to orgasm but this is a big plus for you....because that just means she knows how to make it happen. That is a great thing.

She knows your a virgin, she's not expecting you to be Casanova. The thing to remember is that she's a virgin too, and she will be JUST as nervous if not more. You both will be nervous.....together.

Relax....take a few deep breaths....and don't have sex until you're ready. And when you're ready, it'll happen naturally as things do. Try very hard to know that she loves you, and you two are going to experience something very special together. Talk to her about your nervousness, about your desire to please her. Start out by communicating openly about these things....that way she will feel comfortable to communicate with you too about these things.

And as far as size, you are above average if you're 7.5 inches. That should make you feel good.

And it sounds like you're just as good of a catch as she is....so don't place her on such a pedestal that you NEVER feel good enough. Cause you are good enough.

She is comfortable enough to show you what she likes, I've had a couple of GF's when I was younger that were like that. Don't fight it, go with the flow and enjoy it my good man. If she is not ashamed then you should not be ashamed either. Maybe she needs a lot of foreplay and stimulation to be able to climax. Everybody is different and we need to keep an open mind. Accept that what she does is normal for her, join in, I'm sure she won't mind. You're 21, you've still got a LOT of practicing before you really know what rings a woman's bell, so enjoy the fun. I was a virgin until I was 19 and I was probably about 24-25 before I was confident that I could truly satisfy a woman. At 7.5 you're doing ok, I'm 6 inches, I've had 9 partners in my life and only one that I can say for sure wasn't happy with 6 inches. So the law of averages based on my experiences says you're going to satisfy 90% of your partners.
Do you give her oral sex? My wife sometimes won't let me because she says she orgasm is so intense that her orgasm from intercourse afterwards is almost disappointing in comparison. It is apparently not a bad thing to know how to use your tongue.
Keep your head up young fella. Play her game her way, I would!!!
Hope I've helped