Porn is normal and have more advantages
I’m one of many guys who prefer porn to sex and I’m open and honest about it. The advantages of porn for a man is overwhelming compared to sex, I will use the term porn synonymously with masturbation as the two goes hand and hand. Feminists and insecure women try to find any way and excuse to talk against porn as a moral sin as a way of controlling men, a kind of a double standard for gender equality and independence I would say. But I support it for all its advantages it offers men, social problems and disease control issues like HIV/AIDS it helps.Originally Posted by DanielleA
Advantages of porn for single men
1) While women’s magazines teach young women to say no to sex. Older women go after more mature men 30+, leaving younger men 16 to 27 in the category most women refer to as ”immature boys” which women are not interested in. This leave men frustrated to develop coping skill especially when they rich their prime during early 20’s. That’s where porn becomes an essential coping skill, but also a strong habit probably more difficult to quit than smoking, but very important for coping on a daily basis.
2) Women often have issues with men and their sexual needs and behavior, porn allows men to enjoy their sexuality on their own without being dependant on women and their approval.
3) Porn is important for single men who prefer single status to have a sense of independence to enjoy his sex life without being dependant on a partner.
4) It's often easier for men to enjoy porn than to face rejection, gender stereo typing, conflict that threatens them when seeking a sexual partner.
Advantages of porn for a man
1) Porn does not cause accidental pregnancy, condoms can break, women lie about their use of contraceptives putting men at risk.
2) Porn does not trick a man into unwanted pregnancy, thus it prevents men from falling into the trap of becoming a woman’s “financial slave” and force into lawbinding responsibility he might not be ready for.
3) Porn does not spread STD’s or HIV/AIDS making it the safest form of sexual activity
4) Porn does not use women for a night then break their heart the next day like sexually frustrated men do who don’t rather watch porn
5) Porn does not accuse men of rape or harassment when men try to satisfy their sexual needs
6) Porn does not smell or get wet, vaginal odors and fluids which can be unpleasant for many guys.(I have said no to sex before because I’m not prepared to deal with the virginal odors and fluids one must bare with every time)
7) With porn a man can get an orgasm in a few minuets, sex take long to get satisfactory results.
8) Porn you can watch at any time, sex you can only have when a woman wants it as well.
9) Masturbation only require the work of the hand in a way the man enjoys it best, with minimum effort. Sex is often in most uncomfortable position,often the man is required to do the hard work, and a lot of effort, (often I had said no to sex because I’m tiered and its too much effort.)
10) Porn can provide the best sex appeal since the man gets to choose the appearance, style, theme for a his mood. With sex the woman is not always attractive or appealing making it difficult to be satisfying or arousing.
11) With porn and masturbation a man don’t need a woman’s permission or approval for sexual satisfaction.
12) With porn a man can express himself sexually in any way he feels most arousing and satisfying without worrying about a woman’s approval to whether it fits her values, expectations and insecurities.
13) Men who watch porn are sexually more satisfied on a day-to-day basis making it less likely to look around or chase after women (personal experience)
14) Porn is often filled with new fresh and exciting imagination and creativity, women taking passive sexual roles, (just laying there) makes it often dull and boring after the tenth time of having sex, making it the least energy efficient way to get an orgasm.
Disadvantage of porn for a man
1) How to explain to you girl friend/wife why you never feel like having sex it can be misleading making her think you have an affair while your habits make you most likely not to have an affair.
2) It is often lonely to have a sex life on your own.
As a 31 year old male who have been single large my early adult life being tired of gender issues and rejection and didn't like the risks that goes with relationships. Who knows what kinds of trouble I might have had by now, if I was trying to have sex as my only way of sexual satisfaction for the last ten years. Like many other men experience, sexual harassment cases for being to desperate; being called a stalker for calling a girl who don’t feel the same way, twice to many times; being called a pervert for having needs that doesn’t match the woman’s needs or values; paying child support for a woman and her family for unwanted pregnancy or, being on chronic medication to survive HIV/AIDS or other STD’s. I’m grateful and glad for the positive role porn played in my life.
Now I date a woman who don’t mind porn, since it is a integrated part of my sexuality, as long as I give enough love and attention for her as well. We are both happy this way. Many couples like to share porn rather as part of their sex life making it work both ways.
Sounds like you're using porn as a way to distract yourself from the fact that you haven't built any social skills. I have no real problem with porn but your post is just bitter and angry. It's not the female gender's fault that you can't function around other people and need porn as an outlet.
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As a 31 year old male who have been single large my early adult life being tired of gender issues and rejection and didn't like the risks that goes with relationshipWho knows what kinds of trouble I might have had by now, if I was trying to have sex as my only way of sexual satisfaction for the last ten years.Not to go into your 1 - 14 reasons in depth... However, 31, little or no experience with sex. A hatred of women to a degree that they lie, cheat, get pregnant, smell down there and your not prepared to stand for that odor, means you have no concept of the word sex, love or understanding... or being with a woman...Like many other men experience, sexual harassment cases for being to desperate; being called a stalker for calling a girl who don’t feel the same way, twice to many times; being called a pervert for having needs that doesn’t match the woman’s needs or values; paying child support for a woman and her family for unwanted pregnancy or, being on chronic medication to survive HIV/AIDS or other STD’s. I’m grateful and glad for the positive role porn played in my life
.Now I date a woman who don’t mind porn, since it is a integrated part of my sexuality, as long as I give enough love and attention for her as well. We are both happy this way. Many couples like to share porn rather as part of their sex life making it work both ways
And so you found yourself an insecure woman who needs love and will do anything to have it. Much like you ..
Do you seriously think that you don't want love? Are you not "controlling her?"... Many couples also like to "not" share porn, and love the scent of a woman.
I think you've missed alot in life which is a shame...
It would have been very lonley masterbating and watching porn for 31 years of your life... You obviously want love and needed love but see sex as dirty, woman as un-clean and are convincing yourself that porn and masterbation all that time was the healthier choice, avoided aids, avoided women's juices running free because "you" not her masterbating but you made her wet, which makes "you" feel like a man.
What a shame you have intergraded this all into your mind of "it is"...
This is "bitter".. against women, against rejection.. the points you make is all about 'me, me, me' and I don't have to explain anything to women, I was free... No you weren't you were lost, are lost and have no connection with women, intimacy, love, ..
Best wishes ..
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
6) Porn does not smell or get wet, vaginal odors and fluids which can be unpleasant for many guys.(I have said no to sex before because I’m not prepared to deal with the virginal odors and fluids one must bare with every time)
I have been with several woman in my time and had sex all around the world with them. I have never in my day experienced this problem. Most woman keep themselves fresh and clean and body fluids that result from sexual arousal are there for just that - more sexual arousal, enjoyment, and natures way to enhance the experience. You seem to have a problem with all of it. It's not a wonder that women may not gravitate to you. Porn is probably a good thing in your world, but, I think many men, who are in relationships, watch porn to visualize fantasies that they don't or can't experience in the bedroom with their partner. It's not completely unhealthy, however, it could be if it gets to be an addiction.
Day Tripper
As a man, I think your summary is spot-on: here is someone who clearly doesn't understand the concept of a "relationship" of any sort with any other human being, but most especially not with women.
I'd almost most be tempted to suggest the "L-word" would describe him.
Last edited by Texasred; 08-12-2010 at 08:39 AM. Reason: correct spelling error
It sounds as if you have eliminated emotion. Self gratification with artificial stimuli. Except for the occational fling with the recent woman. Does she satisfy you..? Provide companionship..?
IMO, you will be living a very lonely sheltered life. And that is your choice... I just wonder why you have placed this thread here..?? This is a womens health site, we welcome men. Just curious.. since most of your reasoning is that physically/sexually/mentally we, (women) are maniacle/smelly/lying creatures.
Porn and masturbation isn't sex, its watching tv/computer and touching one's self. Nothing wrong with that in most cases. Porn is a great tool for lonely single people, people in marriages/relationships where they don't get the amount of sex they desire, and for couples that are looking to spice up the bedroom and may need visual aids to do so.
I must say though, with the way you prefer masturbation and porn to sex, I wonder if you have ever had a meaningful intimate relationship with a giving lover... because it just sounds like you haven't. If your ideas about sex are that its physically uncomfortable (positions, you mention), too much work, too much worry about pleasing your partner etc... its possible that previous partners have sensed your disdain for the act and have pulled back on being as giving as they would have been leaving a vicious cycle of you feeling sex can't measure up for you in the way it does for the people you watch.
Its hard for me to understand how someone with so much resentment toward the act of 2 people having sex could enjoy watching people have it. I would think if you watch porn, you'd see other people on screen enjoying so much pleasure and want to be able to feel some of that in real life as well.
A bit like eating a loaf of bread while watching the food channel with some chef prepare something amazing... stuffing the bread in ones mouth, getting full, pretending to taste the 4 star meal on the television. At the end of the show, the loaf of bread is gone, the person is no longer hungry... but if it were me... I'd rather be in that restaurant eating that four course meal, or at the very least... if I couldnt afford it, or wasn't that great of a cook... trying to make something with a bit more flavor than just bread, day after day bread.
Sure it sustains and does the trick, even feels good going down when you are starving.... but there is more to eating than just getting full. Theres tasting, the good smells, etc...
I can orgasm easy with my own finger, I can fantasize and get there quick as a minute or less, or I can pace myself and make it last an hour. I can do it in my bed, laying down and comfy... no legs over the head or bending over... it gets the job done, the orgasm feels good, no shot at pregnancy, no mess to clean up... but it is no where near as filling to my body and mind as having sex with my boyfriend.
Whether we have a hot quickie or long slow love making session, the shared experience of bringing some to orgasm and being brought their yourself, the sounds, the smells, the tastes, the not knowing exactly whats going to happen, the element of surprise for which way they are going to touch you etc (you can't surprise yourself when you masturbate, you just can't... i've tried... it doesn't work lol) but the excitement of feeling someone hit the spot, of depending on someone for your pleasure... being the actors in your very own real life movie...
It just can't be duplicated with a bottle of lotion and a dvd, not in my opinion. To each their own though... and I think a guy that views watching other people have sex as superior to making love to a partner... should probably have a partner that has a similiar disinterest in sex.. and they can probably be very happy together meeting their physical needs seperately.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
What a perfect description of the way good lovemaking is!
It makes me look forward to my next such encounter... pardon me while I go make a phone call!
- TR
Nothing wrong with being pro-porn, but preferring it to a human being? Really? I feel like the poster must be a misogynist, and definitely has some serious intimacy issues.
The poster is most likely a troll just on a wind-up so we need not get all worked up over how lame he is.
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