sex with older men

**cocoa** · 08-15-2010 12:27 AM

Just a note: Already started a thread on dating older men in the "Dating" section but didn't want to pose this question there.

How is sex with older men (10/15+)? Are there particular issues or concerns which arise during intercourse with older lovers/partners? How are older partners different in their views or behaviors related to sexual activity?

**justcuriouz** · 08-15-2010 01:08 AM

I guess it depends on what age they are and what age you are. I am younger than my fiance by almost that much and while we have no other issues, we have some bedroom issues. Their views may be more conservative as they grew up in a different generational culture. Or not. It depends. They may also have a tougher time getting physically aroused, but again that probably depends on exactly how old we're talking about. ED is not common in men under 50 or so, I think. And while it's apparently not normal at any age, it gets more common the older they get. But if the older man you have in mind (I'm assuming you do or else you probably wouldn't be asking) is anything like the older man I have found, the pros outweigh the cons. But there could be some sexual issues, just to warn ya.

**cocoa** · 08-15-2010 02:42 AM

Originally Posted by justcuriouz

I guess it depends on what age they are and what age you are. I am younger than my fiance by almost that much and while we have no other issues, we have some bedroom issues. Their views may be more conservative as they grew up in a different generational culture. Or not. It depends. They may also have a tougher time getting physically aroused, but again that probably depends on exactly how old we're talking about. ED is not common in men under 50 or so, I think. And while it's apparently not normal at any age, it gets more common the older they get. But if the older man you have in mind (I'm assuming you do or else you probably wouldn't be asking) is anything like the older man I have found, the pros outweigh the cons. But there could be some sexual issues, just to warn ya.

Thx for responding. Actually, i don't have anyone in mind. I was am just curious (no pun intended ;D). What are the pros which outweigh the cons?

My next question is does sexual satisfaction decline? As the older man's body changes because of age, does it affect how you feel about about them? Do you struggle to maintain interest if they can't perform as well as someone would expect a younger man would?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-15-2010 03:01 AM

Don't fear what you read, because it's all honestly about the "woman you feel " . I appreciate your young and viewing older.. I am older and with a partner the same age. But I can guarantee you that it can be like your teenage years for both. It's about ensuring the spark is kept alive, both are taken back to that inquisitive time, in your lives or venture further into more adventurous..

Lets look at Angelina Jolie, she has seduced every man with perfection...

CW

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-15-2010 07:10 AM

Its more about chemistry and physical health than it is to do with age. There are men in their 20's that have erectile dysfunction (although usually anxiety based, or due to overly frequently masturbating and unable to perform later for intercourse), Their are men in their 40's that know no more about a womans body or how to please it than a 19 year old guy having sex for the first time. Its going to be a case by case basis, there just is no real way to generalize or prepare for sex with an older man. Its going to be as good or bad as it would be in any other age bracket depending on the man, his passion, his interest and willingness to learn your body and what pleases it. Some older men are really open minded and ready to explore, some are reserved and stuck int heir ways. You will just have to get to know the man you are with , there is no way you are going to understand what he wants or likes or is ready/not ready for by simply knowing his age.

**Day Tripper** · 08-15-2010 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Its more about chemistry and physical health than it is to do with age. There are men in their 20's that have erectile dysfunction (although usually anxiety based, or due to overly frequently masturbating and unable to perform later for intercourse), Their are men in their 40's that know no more about a womans body or how to please it than a 19 year old guy having sex for the first time. Its going to be a case by case basis, there just is no real way to generalize or prepare for sex with an older man. Its going to be as good or bad as it would be in any other age bracket depending on the man, his passion, his interest and willingness to learn your body and what pleases it. Some older men are really open minded and ready to explore, some are reserved and stuck int heir ways. You will just have to get to know the man you are with , there is no way you are going to understand what he wants or likes or is ready/not ready for by simply knowing his age.

Good answer!

**cocoa** · 08-15-2010 12:49 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Don't fear what you read, because it's all honestly about the "woman you feel " . I appreciate your young and viewing older.. I am older and with a partner the same age. But I can guarantee you that it can be like your teenage years for both. It's about ensuring the spark is kept alive, both are taken back to that inquisitive time, in your lives or venture further into more adventurous..

Lets look at Angelina Jolie, she has seduced every man with perfection...

CW

This is less about fear, than about general interest and curiosity. Being informed about anything regardless of age makes more sense than walking into something blindly. On another note, I think I'll leave the "seduction" and "adventure" to the pros.

Something simple, direct, and stable is more my cup of tea.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 08-15-2010 05:24 PM

I have a little fantasy about sleeping with an older man...someone 15-20 years older than me...... maybe someday I'll be able to answer this question. haha.

I think it will be very hot and passionate.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-15-2010 05:52 PM

Ah don't take me out of context

Stable, simple, direct.. is all good... But, there is a "myth" about an older man, losing his sexual drive and an older woman gaining hers. My point is simply, that is not the case. Certainly love has alot to do with it, alot... And, in that, you can be free to express and be yourself... and that can also be a direct approach in a stable relationship....

I'm not at all suggesting you have to be a wild woman in order to make a man interested in more sex... Rather confident, in your love and therefore, in your love making, what ever you desire in that respect.

On a side note myself... There is nothing wrong with gaining people's opinions, thoughts, facts, and using that information within your life.. That is better than going in cold turkey in any situation.. After all that is how the successful business people in life became successful, it applys for all aspects of life.

CW

**cocoa** · 08-15-2010 06:11 PM

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

I have a little fantasy about sleeping with an older man...someone 15-20 years older than me...... maybe someday I'll be able to answer this question. haha.

I think it will be very hot and passionate.

Yeah . . . haha

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Ah don't take me out of context

Stable, simple, direct.. is all good... But, there is a "myth" about an older man, losing his sexual drive and an older woman gaining hers. My point is simply, that is not the case. Certainly love has alot to do with it, alot... And, in that, you can be free to express and be yourself... and that can also be a direct approach in a stable relationship....

I'm not at all suggesting you have to be a wild woman in order to make a man interested in more sex... Rather confident, in your love and therefore, in your love making, what ever you desire in that respect.

On a side note myself... There is nothing wrong with gaining people's opinions, thoughts, facts, and using that information within your life.. That is better than going in cold turkey in any situation.. After all that is how the successful business people in life became successful, it applys for all aspects of life.

CW

Thx for your response. Sorry about my misreading there.

I see what you mean. yeah.