I am having problems because my husband has cheated on me 2 or 3 times.
I dont desire him anymore because of this. we have 2 kids. do I stay and let him cheat and i do without sex. anybody got any suggestions?

Well, this is just my opinion...

I feel that once your man cheats on you, the trust is lost forever. He may or may not change, but you will never get that trust back 100%. Which means that no matter what, you will always have that worry in the back of your mind. The slightest little thing out of place and it will drive you crazy. This will just cause you both to fight and be unhappy. It really makes you lose all respect for that person.

I feel that once someone cheats, that's it. Game over. No more playing games. If someone is truly happy with you and they truly love you, they would NEVER cheat on you or do anything that would intentionally hurt you. They may come crawling back begging and pleading, swearing up and down that they love you and made a mistake. And the truth is, they probably do love you. But it's not true love. Not unconditional love. Or they never would have done that. I am sorry, but there is just no excuse in my eyes.

As for the issue of staying for the children. I think that is the worst thing that people can do. Yes, it would be hard and painful to break up the family. But children know when the parents are unhappy. They pick up on these things. Even if you aren't fighting in front of them. Children need to be around positive influences. They need to experience love and affection in their household. Staying for the children is always more damaging then good and most people will end up leaving later on anyway.

I know some people won't agree. But, that's just my opinion. Best wishes to you!

Well if you stay, your putting your happiness on the back burner. A happy mother is usually a good mother. Why live in a house with negativity? The sooner you move on the sooner you can find a man that is worthy of you!

You Need To Leave Him For Your Sake And Your Childrens Sake. My Parents Went Throught He Same Thing And Still Are. My Mom Cheated And They Are Seperated But Live In The Same House. My Mom In Her Room And My Dad In The Garage. It Really Has Taken A Toll On My And My Younger Siblings. It Is A Part Of Our Everyday Lives. It Has Really Affected Me And My Relationship With My Boyfriend For A While I Lost All Hope In My Relationship I Was Just Waiting For It To Collapse Ir For Him To Cheat On Me. I Had Little Trust In Him And Now We Are Struggling With Our Relationship Because Of My Insecurities. I Hate Hearing My Parents Argue Or Seeing My Dad Beg For My Moms Love But She Does Not Love Him, Atleast Not The Way I Woman Loves Man , Her Husband. And My Siblings Also Suffer. Just Please Do The Right Thing For You And Your Children. It Will Be Hard At First But It The End It Will Do You And Them Alot Of Good.

I am going through the same problem right now. It was 3 years August 8th since my husband and I were able to connect and I feel comfortable. We don't touch, we sleep in the same bed but on our own sides. We just live together and although I think that he loves me I know in my heart that he is not "in-love" with me. We don't have any children but just purchased a home which makes it difficult. I know that right now I am depressed because his cheating made me feel like less of a woman. But in my mind I don't want to say that I was the one who walked away. Often as women we want our marriages to work.

What are you willing to sacrifice for your marriage? Do whats in your heart--not whats in ours.