Thread: I think sex is sort of gross- help please?

The OP seems to have faded away but I suspect this is a common problem. One thing you can do to over come this to immerse yourself in educational material. Hit the bookstore or Amazon and pick up some books on sex (see the books on sex thread for a few suggestions) and start reading. As you get an idea of the range of possiblities and how normal sex and bodies are, I think you will start to lose some of that resistance.

Other posters are right that finding that special someone to unlock your desire can help. I've a pretty high sex interest but the level and intensity varies with different partners. There are some men that leave me completely flat line - no interest, others are moderate interest - with a little effort or stimulation I'm into it, and some who have me on simmer - ready all the time and then there was a special one who had me just over the top all the time. Even with a high response level, how open he is to trying things will affect your responses.

A man who turns you on, who is really comfortable with his sexuality and yours, is a whole different level of experience from a man who is narrowly defined in what he will and will not do or is comfortable with. My current lover has an 'ick' factor associated with his own ejaculate and a few other things, that limits my experience.

You have to open up, safely, and explore what is out there. Find a man you really connect with (that doesn't have to mean you are 'in love') and you should find it loses all 'grossness'. You can't make an omlet without dealing with opening the eggs, you can't have good sex without touching, tasting, feeling, reveling in it. Learn to love it and you will be rewarded with a much richer life.