What do you consider going all the way for lesbians?

**JaneC09** · 08-23-2010 10:31 PM

I know this is kind of a stupid question, but it is an interesting one. Just as intercourse is going all the way for heterosexuals, what do you consider going all the way with a girl? Personally, just using your fingers or tongue (or both) is good enough for me, but I think maybe using a double dildo might be the equivalent.

What do you think? This question is directed to everyone, not just lesbians.

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-23-2010 10:52 PM

I don't consider intercourse the only thing that is going all the way for heterosexuals. If my boyfriend said he gave and received oral to another chick, but ... 'at least he didn't go all the way'... lol... I would be like Oh yes you did!!! I think going all the way would involve any act which which anyone could reasonably expect someone to orgasm from.

Rubbing someones elbow = not going all the way

Licking someones clitoris = thats pretty much an all the way move in my book

If it was strictly penis to vagina... condoms could be the barrier that makes it not TECHNICALLY going all the way as in... no skin to skin penis in vagina contact... just way too many loopholes.

So for same sex couples I would think going all the way would be anything that could reasonably expected to bring the other party to orgasm, and doing it for that purpose.

**LanaBear** · 08-23-2010 11:07 PM

I pretty much agree with HD. To me, sex (in my life) is anything that would bring myself or my hubby pleasure, not just penis in vagina intercourse. Oral sex, mutual masturbation, manual stimulation to the other person, intercourse, etc., it's all sex in my book. If either one of us orgasms, it's sex.

So, for same sex couples, I consider it the same. Regardless of how you are brought to orgasm, if you are giving or receiving pleasure, you are having sex.

**stressed** · 08-24-2010 03:14 PM

I agree with the above.

"all the way" = any kind of physical contact with sexual intentions.

**WildChild** · 08-24-2010 06:40 PM

Given that I have orgasmed just driving my car or standing in line someplace, as well as from kissing, I am a little challenged with the definition of what you could reasonalbly expect to orgasm from. Haven't given much thought to same gender sex, but perhaps skin to skin, orgasmic activity would have to cover it.

**Day Tripper** · 08-24-2010 07:23 PM

Growing up, I always believed going all the way meant intercourse between two people (hetrosexual). Remember the old Raspberries song? As for Lesbians and Gay men, I have no idea where the line is drawn. Why does it matter?