Are kegals a con??

**lemi** · 08-26-2010 05:45 AM

Hi All

thanks for viewing my thread...I dont want to write you a essay so i'll try to be quick and to the point.

For a few years I have been worried about weak vaginal muscles and inability to climax. This was an ongoing problem that really caused alot of frustration in my life to the point where I thought about it 90% of the day. I felt very upset and embarrased as I felt I would never be able to satisfy a partner or have any form of a lasting relationship.

I saw a sexual counsellor but felt as though we didnt gel to well as when I tried to explain my problems to her she seemed defiant that it must be in my head. I told here that I didnt feel much pleasure from intercourse and felt my muscles were weak. She said to me if you havent had any kids its unlikely that your muscles will be weak or stretched...I know from experience that is not true.

However she did express the importance of kegal excersise and told me that would improve my sexual pleasure. She also advised that I should try touching myself and learning how to climax.

Basically I have been doing PF excersises for over a year now and I have refrained form having any form of penetrative sex or stimulation. Yes I havent had sex for A YEAR!! I'm sorry for having to repeat that but sometimes when I think about it I shock myself! lol

Anyway im use to not having sex now and feel happier that I will hopefully meet someone meaningful and worth the wait....I think Im doing the excersises right and do them as regularly as everyday but I dont keep count of how many reps I do. Also I have learnt that art of clitoral stimulation and have climaxed regulary which has been a great breakthrough for me.

do you think my muscles may have stregnthened? and the pleasure will increase for me and my future partner? or is it a con?

I said I wouldnt do an essay and look what happens ???!!

**WildChild** · 08-26-2010 06:25 AM

Yes your muscles will have strengthened and that can increase your pleasure. However, kegels are most effective if you us a resistance device such as a kegel master.

**Hopeless Dork** · 08-26-2010 10:30 AM

If you aren't masturbating, and don't keep up with the kegals... not having sex for a long time can actually make your muscles down there even more slack. I don't know if you stopped the sex because you think it will tighten you up down there... or for other reasons... but if its because you think having sex is making you stretched.. that couldn't be further from the truth.

I went much longer than you without sex, didn't kegal and only masturbated infrequently and when I had sex for the first time after going so long without I felt like I could not grip his penis. I thought I was going to be like a virgin again and be extremely tight from so long without sex... but it was actually the opposite effect. Muscles there... like anywhere else.. if not in use can just grow weak.

I think we get that myth from younger days when guys would call a girl that slept around loose... and then associating loose morals with a loose vagina, when typicaly a girl having more sex, masturbating more, kegaling more... will have a much tighter spot than one with nothing goin on down there but a ghost town

I started doing kegals regularly, I started masturbating frequently (which causes you to naturally just squeeeze and kegal anyway

) and me and my boyfriend began having sex frequently and within a few months I noticed the difference and now after several months of having a lively party town in my pants vs the dust bowl that once was... I'm tight enough to massage and squeeze a pinky finger :P

I'm not saying go have crazy sex to be tighter... I was just curious if your reason for stopping was the false belief that no sex = tighter vajayjay. Kegals work, masturbating keeps you lively down there and both are safe and effective.

**ItsASecret** · 08-26-2010 02:41 PM

Everyone is different not to mention there is no textbook method that is going to be 100% effective in any and all cases so you could have a pleasant surprise with nice toned vaginal muscles, or see absolutely no result. Muscles can go through partial atrophy when they are not in use, as in they freeze up, so kegals can keep the muscles "awake". The more you use something the more flexible the muscle becomes and not necessarily 'loose'. Loose is not actually a good term because the muscle is not hanging there like a sling, it just means the muscle is not able to respond to the same tensile stimulus as a toned one.

**Hooster** · 08-26-2010 10:31 PM

It is not a con. It will make sex more pleasurable for you and your partner if you have strong kegel muscles. I am a man and I keep those muscles fit. Many of my lovers say they like the sensation they feel when I tighten and relax my kegel muscles when I am inside them. They can easily feel it. I can also tell you that the sensation of a woman tightening and relaxing her msucles while I am inside her is fantastic if she has strong muscles. I have heard some men can orgasm just from that milking sensation.

So, keep those muscles fit, I am sure having strong muscles there will make sex better for you and your partner and give you better orgasms.

**WildChild** · 09-11-2010 09:06 AM

Recently bought some Kegel Balls, just for variety. Can't say I'm impressed although if I hadn't been using a kegel master for a couple years they might feel different. They are slightly weighted and have a cord which the ladies in the shop tell me can be used to produce some interesting sensations with a partner or by slipping a vibe into the loop. It wouldn't touch your body but the vibrations travel to the balls inside the vagina. I haven't tried that yet mostly because while I can cum like crazy with a man, a vibe inside just doesn't do much for me.

Just curious what other's experiences have been with these.

**Faerunner** · 09-12-2010 10:50 AM

For me the balls just felt weird but I had a very cheap set that were tossed in as part of a "random bag 'o stuff". I didn't like the sensation of moving around with them in (it caused the weighted balls inside the larger kegel balls to roll uncomfortably), so I haven't used them. I suspect a better set would be much more comfortable and fun.

Masturbation is most definitely a pro, and I find that doing kegels in itself can be a turn-on (especially if you're sitting at the office!), so there's that... they've also helped with sexual pleasure. For me, it's a win-win.

**WildChild** · 09-12-2010 12:25 PM

I got the Ophoria kegel balls, they are connected,sell for about $25. Tried the vibe in the cord bit and wasn't impressed. Seems like the Kegel master works the muscles better but can't hurt to use both.

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