Can't Orgasm anymore :(

**CandiceLisa** · 08-29-2010 04:02 PM

I'm 25 and ever since my boyfriend and I started having sex about 2 years ago, I've had an orgasm almost every single time. That was a first for me and I was always very happy and proud of it. About a year ago I was using the NuvaRing and after a few months of being on the ring I noticed a couple side effects including lack of sex drive, and not being able to orgasm. I switched to the pill Tri-Sprintec and everything got better again after that.

I've been on the pill now for almost a year and starting about 2 months ago I just stopped being able to orgasm again. I figured it was just a one time, two time, or 3 time deal but it has now turned into every time. It just doesn't happen. I feel the build-up, like it's about to happen and then instead of actually orgasming i feel everything get sensitive as if i had an orgasm but I didn't actually ahve one. It's like I just lose it right when it's about to happen.

I don't know if this has anything to do with the pill, and i was thinking it might be because I gained some weight, but I'm really not sure what the problem is or how to fix it. Does anyone have any ideas? It"s getting really frustrating for both my boyfriend and I b/c now he's starting to think that it's because I don't find him attractive anymore when that's totally not the problem! Help!

**jns** · 08-29-2010 05:25 PM

The newness to having sex probably kept the excitation level high and now that is down a bit. Not having an orgasm probably became a self fulfilling prophesy after a few times of not having one: it created a mental block. The extra weight could play a part in that he may not be hitting the same spots as often or as hard, doubly so if he also gained weight.

Do you orgasm through manual stimulation or oral. If not, try to see if one or the other or both could give you the orgasms you are missing. If so, try to incorporate them into your routine so you are primed to have and orgasm when being intimate with your bf.

**WildChild** · 08-29-2010 05:59 PM

Find another form of BC. They are terrible for killing sex intererst.

**Hooster** · 08-29-2010 09:47 PM

Use condoms.

**CandiceLisa** · 08-29-2010 10:12 PM

Originally Posted by jns

Do you orgasm through manual stimulation or oral. If not, try to see if one or the other or both could give you the orgasms you are missing. If so, try to incorporate them into your routine so you are primed to have and orgasm when being intimate with your bf.

I can still orgasm from both of these, but they are never as extreme as they used to be. They're like little wimpy orgasms compared to what I used to get.