I can't get into anal, is there something I'm missing?

**JaneC09** · 09-05-2010 11:21 AM

I've never been into anal-sex. It doesn't feel good to me, it feels just plain wrong.

I decided to try something while I was in the tub the other day. Taking a bath, I had latex gloves on, and I began to very slowly push my index finger into my . I tried this for about ten minutes, but I just didn't like it. I guess I just don't like it.

Any advice on this matter?

**LanaBear** · 09-05-2010 11:34 AM

Some women just can't get into it and some can. After a while, you may find pleasure in it, but I wouldn't push it. Is your girlfriend into anal play? Is this something that the two of you want to try together? IMO, it's easier to get aroused with a partner than going solo with it.

**JaneC09** · 09-05-2010 11:45 AM

She doesn't like it at all. We tried it one time, and it did nothing for either of us. She says she doesn't want to do it anymore, and I agree with her. I was just curious the other day, because I've never actually tried to give myself anal play. But I just don't think I can get into it, so I was wondering if there's something else I gotta do.

It's strange, I can barely get my finger up there. How the do some girls get their entire fists up there?

**jns** · 09-05-2010 12:48 PM

Originally Posted by JaneC09

It's strange, I can barely get my finger up there. How the do some girls get their entire fists up there?

With lot of work stretching things out unless they want pain and possibly medical complications. If you both don't get any pleasure from it, why do it?

**MARIA D GREAT** · 09-05-2010 12:55 PM

i love my husband do fingering instead of sex why?em confusd on many matters of my sexual life
i love tht my huby uses his finger instead of his y is tht????????????help me out

**jns** · 09-05-2010 01:22 PM

Maria, if he is good with his fingers, he can play with in such a way as to get your sexual excitement to rise and fall. Maybe with penetration he is not as skilled or you don't get the same level of excitement. At the same time he is fingering you, he can kiss you and tease you with kisses, licks and nips. He can also finger you with you straddling one of his leg, either from the front or back, or any of a number of other positions. Enjoy his skill.

**WildChild** · 09-05-2010 01:50 PM

There are an abundance of nerves around the anus and some people find it highly arousing, that may not be just penetration. The pernium is the area between the anus and vulva or scrotum and pressure there can intensify arousal. Everyone is a little different in this and some are way different so you have to experiment. If it doesn't do it for you then just don't go there.

**hizenberg** · 09-06-2010 12:08 AM

if it doesnt work for you then why do it?? i heard my bestfriend say once you push through the pain and need to use the toilet, lol, it then becomes exciting and good?? i dont know if id do it though lol

**Femme** · 09-07-2010 08:49 AM

Tried this with my partner and I didn't think I'd enjoy it, but we both found it fun (and weird at the same time).
Something I would try again.

**Faerunner** · 09-12-2010 11:24 AM

I got into it by masturbating first so that I was already pretty wired when I started with anal play. I find that it doesn't do anything for me if I start with it, but if I incorporate it into play when I'm already turned on, it's very exciting and pleasurable.

It's definitely not for everybody, and if you and your partner don't like it you shouldn't feel pressured to keep trying. It's good that you are open to new things, though.