Help with Oral Sex and My Boyfriend!

**summer16** · 09-11-2010 09:22 AM

My boyfriend has given me oral sex more times than I could count, and he's really good, too.
But I've never given him oral sex. He has asked me to and I want to do it for him but I'm scared. I've never given oral sex before. And since he is so good, I'm scared about how I'll be since I've never done it before. He's very understanding and I'm super open and close with him, but I'm scared of how I'll do and if I can make him climax. Any tips or help that you can give to make me feel better?

**Texinator** · 09-11-2010 09:38 AM

If you don't know how to drive, do you never try out of fear of doing it wrong? No, you go practice and learn how to drive. The same thing applies here. You won't learn until you actually try.

He's very understanding and you are close with him, so I reckon he'll be more than happy to help you out, offer advice, and tell you what he likes. So jump right in, or in this case, right on.

**LanaBear** · 09-11-2010 10:40 AM

As long as he guides you and let's you know what pleasures him, you will be fine. Be enthusiastic about it and enjoy it. It is a huge turn on to be in control of your mans pleasure.

**ItsASecret** · 09-11-2010 10:49 AM

Since this would be your first time make sure you ask him to let you know when he is going to cum. Also it may be a good idea to avoid letting him finish in your mouth, at least for the first time, because it can be a rather unpleasant surprise. But it is totally up to you. As for technique, just ask him if this or that feels good as you totally wing it. Do not go into thinking you can make it a skit performance like the acting porn stars...because it wont be. This is a learning experience for you so just do whatever feels comfortable for you and ask him questions along the way. He already knows that you are new to it so I am sure he would be more than happy to give feedback since it will feel good to him no matter what.

**rcoreyus** · 09-11-2010 11:00 AM

Let him know its your first time trying this and he will probably be very flattered - and more than happy to help show you what he likes. As far as letting him finish in your mouth - its up to you, but many men really love this so its worth a try.

If you have no idea what to do, you could watch a porno - the amateur homemade stuff is a much better guide than the pro stuff.

**Texasred** · 09-11-2010 07:23 PM

Originally Posted by summer16

He's very understanding and I'm super open and close with him...

Note what you wrote: this being the case, you should be fine doing whatever you feel like!

If you two are open with each other, you'll be just fine. This should be fun, not something you have to study up for!

**Thomas Hepburn** · 09-12-2010 03:08 AM

You could start by gently stroking the shaft of his penis with your hand. Then do it with your tongue. Gently slide it up and down his penis so that it just brushes the skin. For most guys this is very erotic. Then occasionally take the whole shaft in your mouth. When it's inside, roll your tongue over the head of it backwards and forwards. Then take it out again and stroke it with the tongue. When you want him to cum just keep the head in your mouth and hold the rest of it in your hand and give him a hand job at the same time. As the others have said, it depends on whether you want him to cum in your mouth or not. You could try it first and if you don't like it, ask him to let you know next time when you can pull it out for him to ejaculate outside your mouth.

**sallywi2003** · 09-12-2010 07:44 PM

I would agree with all the rest. Let him know it is your first time which I am sure he knows. I would suggest licking the penis first all aroound the head and then progress slowly so you get used to it. Like they have all said think about id you want him to cum in your mouth ornot.

**Mes T** · 09-12-2010 07:52 PM

Something very erotic for a lot of guys is the mouth+hand combination that Thomas mentioned above. Put the upper portion of the penis in your mouth, get some saliva dripping downward, and then curl your hand underneath your mouth and go up and down, synchronizing your hand and mouth!

Guys love it, and it's also nice for us because sometimes it's hard to take the whole thing into your mouth. This way you won't need to, but the pleasure will all still be there.

It's an invaluable technique I learned from "Talk Sex With Sue" back when I first started!

Loved that show!

Oh, and, you know what - even if you feel like you're screwing up the first few times you try it, your guy will still get a lot of excitement out of it and will really appreciate it. And you'll only get better and better.

Lastly not ALL guys can orgasm from oral. I had a boyfriend who NEVER could, yet the exact same techniques worked to completion on my subsequent boyfriends. So that part just depends on the guy, and don't take it personally if he doesn't come!

**Trying Hard** · 09-14-2010 07:11 AM

In a more humorous vein, there is hilarious scene in Woody Allen´s film “Celebrity” where the girl practices on a banana; rent the film, watch it with your b.f. and its guaranteed to break the tension. “There is a scene in which Robin gets lessons in oral sex from a hooker in order to heighten her sex with her new lover (Joe Mantegna). Davis must "practice" with a banana.”