Thread: Orgasms, or lack there of...

I am 20 years old, and I have been sexually active for 3 years.
I have never had an orgasm before. This is very frustrating for me, almost to the point where I don't even want to have sex with my boy friend. We have been together now for a year, and I love him so much. There is so much passion between the two of us. But, when it comes to having sex, I just can't cum. When it's over he always feels bad that he can't get me off. We will have sex some days for a couple hours (more the less), with foreplay, toys, videos, ect...
We are both very open in the bedroom and always trying new things to keep it interesting. I love having sex, and I get extremely wet every time, to the point where we have to change the sheets before we sleep most days.
I get this insane and intense feeling, and sometimes it feels like I'm going to cum, and rarely I will get all shaky. But, it always just goes away, even when I play with myself this happens. It's so instant and then it's almost like I don't enjoy the sex after this point. I don't know what to do, I want to keep my love happy and I want to enjoy sex like I used to. But, the more sex I have the more frustrated I get because I can't cum.
Has anyone experienced this? Any advice or tips you can maybe give me?

I was married for 4 years before I orgasmed for the first time. I t took years of patience on my husbands part and years of frustration on my part!! We would try stimulating my clitoris for ages before I would get him to stop due to extreme frustration. I always felt so close but didn't quite get there!! Then one night I came, out of the blue, like a dam broke and now I can cum whenever I wish. So when I crossed the brink, so to speak, it seemed to unlock the ability or mindset to cum!! I hope the same thing will happen for you and then you can experience a very fulfilling sexlife1 :-)

Four years!!! That is so long!! I thought 3 was bad, I don't want to wait any longer. I really hope that you are right about after one time, I can do it whenever. I appreciate your story, I really hope you're right!!