Thread: ADD & sex... can't focus while doing it

I have grown up with ADD and at this age I don't notice it as much. I have gotten better at coping with it while doing most things in life. I have had the same partner for more than a year and since the very beginning of our love-making, my mind trails off at a certain point. I think about foods I want to eat, things I forgot to tell him during the day, and other silly things I shouldn't be thinking during such an act. I know its silly but I keep trying to tell him "help me focus" though he doesn't really know what to say. Its usually "we're making love..... I love you" and my mind trails off again.

Any tips for staying focused while having sex? apparently the act isn't entertaining enough for my mind to focus on it? ha!

I can easily relate to what you are saying. I believe I have a tiny attention deficit (not necessarily a disorder, in my case) but my mind does wonder like yours does, sometimes.
Being a guy, it’s most too obvious when and if that happens :- (
So, without really knowing what I was doing, I developed in the beginning and on the spot
(no pun intended :- ) some sort of improvised mantra that I keep repeating, some nice, sweet, loving phrase that reflects what I’m feeling at that particular moment. That has helped my mind from wondering. Is that stopping you from having orgasms?