help him come!

**rozzierox91** · 09-21-2010 12:36 AM

so my bf and i have been together and sleeping together for about a year. he first told me that he wouldn't come til he became more comfortable with me in bed. At first i thought: "no big deal that's great! I know he can take care of me too!" months went by he still didn't come. I began to think: "wow, is it me? is it something i'm doing? is it something i'm not doing? what's going on?" he assured me that it wasn't me. it's a problem he's had since his teenage years. he finally can "come" with me every time in bed as long as we have a minimum of two hours. i'm not going to lie, it gets tiring especially since he's horny every other day. i was wondering, could this me health related or is it just an anxiety he has?

sincerely,
wants to make him feel good QUICK!

**WildChild** · 09-21-2010 12:39 AM

Try a little prostate massage?

**rozzierox91** · 09-21-2010 12:43 AM

tried it. during sex during bj's during hj's i've tried using only my tongue for that area i'm out of idea's

**WildChild** · 09-21-2010 12:48 AM

Does he masterbate? How long does that take him to come? Can you have him show you what he does?

**rozzierox91** · 09-21-2010 12:52 AM

that will take him like 40 min. i know he would rather me play with him i can tell his orgy's are different compared to just when he does it. however, when i do it it can take me an hour to get him off but his orgy then becomes so much more intense.

**kristalyn_04** · 09-21-2010 12:57 AM

I'm assuming by "orgy" you mean orgasm, not group sex. Sounds like he has some sort of performance anxiety, he should talk to someone.

**Agony_Aunt** · 09-21-2010 01:52 AM

I had a partner who was just like that!
It would take 2-4 hours unless we just gave up, on my part. Because your right, it does get very tiring, even sometimes to a point were it's not even pleasurable anymore.
I had asked him about it too, and he just said it had always been like that, and that he rather's the sex to continue on for longer because he's enjoying it.
Sadly, that relationship ended not all because of the sex but it was partly. I started to feel like it was a job. And I wasn't enjoying the sex then or the idea of sex with him.

Maybe it could be health related or something to do with anxiety.
But just sharing my same experience.

**rcoreyus** · 09-21-2010 09:22 AM

Its not that uncommon, and probably doesn't have anything to do with you. Can he talk openly with you about what he enjoys in bed, or do you need to guess? One thing to try is lots of teasing, kissing, massages etc, but don't touch his penis until he is already very aroused - then you may be able to finish him quickly. He may become a desensitized after a lot of continuous stimulation. Are you taking complete precautions against pregnancy or might he have some fear of that?

**rozzierox91** · 09-21-2010 08:42 PM

A_A

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's assuring to know I'm not the only one. It truly disappoints me knowing we can't ever start without him finishing. I want him to feel good too. What were things you tried? (just trying to find different ideas.)

rcoreyus

Thank you for your advise. I am taking birth control even for the 1/18 times he can ejaculate inside me. It's fairly easy for him to tell me what he likes and doesn't like and I can decipher his body language pretty accurately majority of the time which is a plus. I will be sure to try your advise about not touching his penis until he is completely aroused otherwise. I do recall one time, almost a year ago, that we tried something along those lines and he finished upon the second of penetration. I definitely will try that again.
Have you ever heard of similar stories being anxiety related??