I don't get it

**lizzardb63** · 09-21-2010 03:12 PM

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. Because we started dating and got physical I went on birth control. I was on it for 6 months and went off because it was making me depressed. I can't take anything hormonal. ANYWAY...so it seems ever since then, my boyfriend and I don't have sex as often. We use condoms and I don't mind them, but I asked him last night why he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. He answered "because you're not on the pill and it doesn't feel as good." I was kinda mad, but he then went to explain that he cums too fast with a condom and supposedly doesnt feel as good for me. Which i disagree. It feels good either way. anyway, how can a man get more pleasure from having a condom than not? I always thought it was the opposite.

**kristalyn_04** · 09-21-2010 03:49 PM

You could go down on him in addition to sex. As long as he is free of any STD's, you can give him oral without a condom and it will likely feel very good for him and bring him to orgasm.

**lizzardb63** · 09-21-2010 04:01 PM

But he says he cums too quickly with a condom. Just sounds strange to me is all. I can't help it right now. At least not until I find an alternative birth control.

**Texinator** · 09-21-2010 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by lizzardb63

I always thought it was the opposite.

It should be the opposite. A condom offers less sensation and therefore less pleasure.

Put on a glove and put a finger in your mouth. Notice how different it feels compared to sucking on a finger without a glove?

**rcoreyus** · 09-21-2010 04:44 PM

Can you find other sexual things to do that he likes?

**Mes T** · 09-21-2010 04:53 PM

Your boyfriend's explanation contradicts itself. Condoms don't feel as good yet make him cum faster? I think he's lying about one of those two.

Why don't you consider a FemCap or Lea's Shield. I've read up a lot on them and they seem to be a good investment ESPECIALLY coupled with keeping track of your cycles by measuring your BBT. You're only fertile for a few days a month, so if you can figure out when those days are, you won't need to use condoms any of the other days.

**lizzardb63** · 09-21-2010 10:32 PM

I'd rather be safe than sorry I guess. I am considering the Paragard IUD, but I am between jobs and would like to wait until I save up enough money, but just because it isn't the ideal sex for him, doesn't mean I should be able to have sex either. He's been working long hours lately and he usually turns me down because he is tired and has to get up pretty early. Makes sense, but when it happens a few times a week it makes a person think if they desire you anymore. Or perhaps I am being paranoid.

**mommies3** · 09-21-2010 11:19 PM

Amen it does make you wonder. But maybe it is the long hours, that takes alot out of aperson and stress's them out too.
And he doesnt make since on the condom issue. I dont how he could come faster with one. Even my husband who doesnt last long, couldnt come quick with a condom. Lol maybe i should make him start wearing one again LOL. I would definately find some other form of birth control, not just for you but also to see if what he tells you is true.

**Give 2 Get** · 09-22-2010 01:11 PM

Originally Posted by lizzardb63

But he says he cums too quickly with a condom. Just sounds strange to me is all. I can't help it right now. At least not until I find an alternative birth control.

I should jump in and explain. This ends with good news, if I'm right.

To put it bluntly.. He's having sex with the condom. The condom is too loose/too wet on the inside. The reason that he's getting too aroused is that the condom is too loose and rubbing him (especially on the head). Try a smaller/thinner brand. I'm not the type to buy the "Large" condoms and I can see how, for some men, this may be a sensitive subject. Maybe you could buy a variety of brands...

Just my 2cents, hope this helps (and I hope I'm right ---> Easy Fix

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