Thread: Random hookup/dilemma help!

Hi,
I met this boy back in July and we totally hit it off. I was upset that I hadn't met anyone, he walked in and we started talking. We totally hit it off and he came home with me. We were both highly intoxicated and one things just lead to another. At that moment, I wasn't expecting the attention I got from him. The rest of our night was awesome, we totally hit it off, got along perfectly, and he had the passion and drive. The next morning we exchanged numbers, but he gave me someone else's number and so i called him out on fb by calling him an he blocked me. I pondered and pondered and pondered for the past 2 months why he would do that was he not interested because he seemed so interested. Well, I ran into him again last night. After, we both recognized each other, the first thing he said was "let me explain." I'm like no you gave me someone else's number and then blocked me. He's like i panicked, the way we met and things just went so fast I didn't know what to do. He's like I still think about that night over and over. I'm like then why didnt you call me or even unblock me. He had excuses. While this is going on, my ex boyfriend is there as well jealous and trying to come between our conversation. At one point the new boy was like look into my eyes, I'm a nice guy seriously I'm a good guy. He's like you cant even look into my eyes ( I kept staring at the floor) and he took my face and made our eyes lock (it was hot). We went back to my place and we totally hit it off. He knew exactly what to do and say. We talked about us and I said i didn't want a relationship and neither did he with school going on. I just got out of a serious relationship and the last thing i wanted was one. I just wanted something fun, yet casual. We both agreed to just hanging out and even discussed our free time. Truth be told, i'm head over heels for him and I the minute we met the first time and this time we have gotten along perfectly. I just don't know if he is interested. I texted him this afternoon asking him if he is surviving the day with no sleep and if he got to this volunteering thing on time. He had to leave at like 630 am to volunteer at 730 (yes its true i looked into it). He didnt text me back. I know this time he gave me the correct number, but why won't he reply or call me. I begin questioning myself and analyzing every move. I just don't know what to do. I know patience is a virtue and I should wait it out and not sound desperate or needy. I also know this could just be a one night hookup and hes done. But there's something about him I want and he knows it himself that theres something about. We get along perfectly, right chemistry. I know i should move on and I have for the past 2 months. This hasn't stopped me from meeting new people, but I really would like to have him. How do I know if hes into me and not playing mind games?? I'm very insecure because of the way my ex boyfriend treated me and have trust issues, but what should the next step be? Please HELP!

Thank you so much for reading this awful long blabber and your advice.

doesn't sound to me that he is interested in anything but sex..gave you a phony number the first time and didn't answer your text the second time..prolly won't hear from him again until he wants more sex..
your post said that you are head over heels for him and yet you don't want a relationship..i'm somewhat confused

I am going to be completely honest and tell it how it is. I am sorry if I offend you, I have had mostly guy friends my whole life so I have heard countless conversations about the females they have hooked up with.

First, freaking out about him not calling you and such can be unattractive, on account of you two decided to only "hang out". The way you explain him not texted you back and you looking up what time he was volunteering makes you seem borderline stalker.

Second, no matter how nice he seemed right before you two jumped into bed together, he is showing his true colors right now by not calling you back. Plain and simple he was playing you. "He knew exactly what to do and say".... yeah to get you into bed.

Move on. Forget about him.