Help: female orgasm question?

**Hallamjo** · 10-01-2010 01:06 AM

Ok so both me and my girlfriend are virgins. We've become orally physical. The problem is that she has a fear she will never orgasm, as it hasn't happened before and isn't happening now( she's never masturbated either as she doesn't like the idea)
Two things happen depending on if I'm inside or outside.
Both ways, her whole pelvic region and most of her body will essentially start vibrating. Her mouth will become really really dry and she loses feeling in her face. On the outside she will start thrusting and she says it's involuntary but it just keeps going on and on. She said to me,"there's no use it's just gonna keep going on forever"
On the inside after awhile she gets an insane urge to pee(come hither motion on my part). I've had her go in the bathroom and try to pee before but nothing came out and then we resumed and nothing it just keeps happening.
Am I doing something wrong? Is her urge to pee possibly her going to squirt? Someone help!

**CharlesV** · 10-01-2010 05:23 AM

Originally Posted by Hallamjo

( she's never masturbated either as she doesn't like the idea)

Why doesn't she "like the idea" of exploring her body, getting to know it, and learning to drive it?

Maybe thats the problem right there - an attitude to healthy sex and self esteme.

**LittleLily** · 10-01-2010 08:09 AM

I never had a single orgasm from my first 2 BFs, it happened too quick - mission accomplished. Not till I met a guy who gave experience of lifetime.
I thought it is pretty normal unless you have relation with much experienced guy......

Now I can experienced multiple orgasms with my partner and it is good.

**jns** · 10-01-2010 07:05 PM

Do you ever use clitoral stimulation to try to get her to orgasm?

**geedee** · 10-01-2010 10:41 PM

I didn't orgasm until I was like 26 and it was because I finally got tired of not being able to and tried it myself! Once I figured out what it was, how it felt and how it happened I was all good. My suggestion... get her a vibrator........ use it on her. Give it to her. Hopefully she will decide to try it herself. Good luck!

**crazykatbear** · 10-02-2010 07:12 AM

I didn't have mine until I was 23. The old a woman gets, the more she gets to know her body. That can lead to better sex! Please try to get her more comfortable with herself. If she doesn't see that region as beautiful, like myself a couple years ago, then she find if hard to orgasm. I remember those days of thinking that masturbation was a dirty, horrible thing. Then I tried it. ;-) Before I could do that I got to know "her" better. Tell her to try to take a mirror and go exploring. She might want to try this by herself at first. One good book was called "Body Drama" by Nancy Amanda Redd. Most people who read this are amazed at what it covers and its all about how unique and awesome the female body can be. It also covers tons of those awkward questions. She has to be comfortable with herself and you have a head start. Think of how long you have been able to play with your man and how guys are even encouraged. Females are told that its horrible. For some reason in this society a female is told all kinds of horrible things about her body and how is not perfect. Look on TV. All the ads for this beauty product or what not. Help her thru that and the reward will be great. BTW, the peeing thing is normal. Try going pee before and if she still has to pee during, shrugs. It happens to here too. Toys are great to add as well.

**jjasmine** · 10-08-2010 02:30 PM

My psychology teacher told us that the urge to pee comes right before the climax! dont stop

**JonDoe** · 10-08-2010 07:39 PM

She doesn't have to pee, she is on the verge of having an orgasm. Tell her to go with the flow!

**WildChild** · 10-08-2010 07:45 PM

Actually she is on the verge of a g-spot orgasm. That is usually preceeded by a feeling of needing to pee.
Some women do ejaculate with a g-spot orgasm, some do so quite forcefully (squirting). This isn't pee but the two of you should be prepared for the possiblity of things getting rather wet.
A clitoral orgasm works differently. Once she get there with this, you can learn the other.