Forum:

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 16

Thread: "Safe window" for unprotected sex

  1. #1
    July 2011 Poster of the Month Array kristalyn_04's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Gloucester, MA
    Posts
    2,186

    Default "Safe window" for unprotected sex


    As many of you know, I've been casually seeing someone, as more of a FWB situation. We've been safe about it, using condoms and I am considering BC. We are both free of STI's... he was tested shortly before we started having sex and I hadn't had sex for over 5 years and only 1 partner who was clean.

    Well, here's the deal... he wants to have sex without a condom, he says it feels better and he really wants to cum inside me. I would be ok with that, if it wasn't for the risk of getting pregnant. Supposedly, there is a "safe window" a few days after your period, where the risk of getting pregnant is very slim. I told him I still don't want to chance it, but he keeps pressing the issue. He thinks that BC will lower my sex drive. My cycle is pretty regular, and he said that he's had sex with a woman before during the "safe window" and nothing ever happened. I'm still skeptical, I really do NOT want to get pregnant right now, that really would be a very bad thing to happen while I'm still trying to establish my career and be comfortably able to support myself. Am I right in saying that a woman can get pregnant anytime during her cycle?
    How can you see where you're going if you spend your whole life looking over your shoulder? –Naughty Ninja

  2. #2
    APRIL 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH Array ItsASecret's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Posts
    3,822
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default

    Supposedly, there is a "safe window" a few days after your period, where the risk of getting pregnant is very slim.
    Relatively speaking this is true, key word relative. Fertilization and implantation can still occur even during your actual period so in actuality there is no real "safe window"....only "biologically speaking conception is not favorable after your period".

    he said that he's had sex with a woman before during the "safe window" and nothing ever happened
    This is called anecdotal evidence..."I did it, nothing happened, therefore there is a safe time". Obviously this is not true. Ask any woman who conceived when they thought they were in the clear and safe.

    If you do not want to be pregnant then unprotected sex is not the way to go no matter how many buts or pleases are said.
    There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.

  3. #3
    VIP Member Array
    Join Date
    Sep 2010
    Posts
    49

    Default

    A woman asks her doctor what is the best contraceptive.
    He says ‘Orange juice’.
    ‘Before or after?, she asks.
    ‘Instead’, says the doctor.

    After two or three days after your period, theoretically
    you would be in the safe, if I recall correctly- I, and my girl friend did have
    lots and lots of orange juice back in my time- but as the Lord and
    you ladies work in mysterious ways, stress, etc, can indeed change
    your ovulation, so… Do your homework. And good luck!

  4. #4
    jns
    jns is offline
    Triple Diamond Member (3,000+ posts & member 3 years+) Array jns's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    LA, CA
    Posts
    5,805

    Default

    Look in Wiki under calendar based contraceptive methods for an idea of what a woman's cycle is like from a time basis. Remember sperm can stay alive for several days in a woman's inner folds. This is why pregnancy risk is somewhat greater shortly after menstruation (days 5, 6 and 7). Many people misunderstand which days are which.

  5. #5
    Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Array Texasred's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    North Texas
    Posts
    746

    Default

    There is only one "safe" period for unprotected sex, and it occurs in most women after about the age of 50...

  6. #6
    WH Head Moderator Array WildChild's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Western USA
    Posts
    14,509
    Blog Entries
    6

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Texasred View Post
    There is only one "safe" period for unprotected sex, and it occurs in most women after about the age of 50...
    And it is great! You get to be plenty horny and no worries, no muss no fuss.
    We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer

  7. #7
    WH MODERATOR Array Beautiful Disaster's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    United States - Kentucky
    Posts
    4,841

    Default

    Don't do it. Seriously.

    And when I say don't do it..... I mean don't have unprotected sex, and don't go on BC pill. Obviously just my opinion, but what a better way to ruin a good sexual relationship than to start taking something that makes you lose your drive, gain weight, lose hair, have mood swings, feel tired, spot, etc. Not saying that happens to EVERYONE, but it happens to alot of women (check out the birth control board). I'd consider something like a cervical cap. It's something I'm going to be trying before long.

    As far as without protection..... um...no. It's too risky, AND, you'll spend so much of your time fretting. If Aunt Flow doesn't show up when she's supposed to, if you get sick at your stomach, if your boobs get sore, etc etc etc......you'll worry yourself.....trust me. Don't do it. Tell him tough noogies!

  8. #8
    Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+)MAY 2011 POSTER OF THE MONTH Array pretzel's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Philly Suburbs
    Posts
    1,561

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by WildChild View Post
    And it is great! You get to be plenty horny and no worries, no muss no fuss.
    Sounds like someone's bragging a little bit
    There will always be boundries, but making love is so different, than having sex, let's face it. CW

  9. #9
    WH Head Moderator Array WildChild's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    Location
    Western USA
    Posts
    14,509
    Blog Entries
    6

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by pretzel View Post
    Sounds like someone's bragging a little bit
    Just enjoying it.
    After years of dealing with BC; blood clots, allergies to the goop and, well the IUD was a no worry, no fuss deal...It is nice to have all that off the table.


    Kristalyn, you have two reasons not to do this. One is the conception concerns and the other is that in a FWB can you really be certain of monogamy? Many STIs are for life or death. How much do you really trust this man? Do you trust him with your life?
    We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer

  10. #10
    July 2011 Poster of the Month Array kristalyn_04's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Gloucester, MA
    Posts
    2,186

    Default

    Yeah you guys are right, I have been sticking to my guns and telling him no, I just wanted some more opinions. As far as BC, I've looked into those and I have plenty of friends on the pill. The last time I was in a relationship I was on the Depo shot, which I will never go on again because it made me gain weight like crazy, but that was the only side effect I had. My friends say the side effects for them on the pill are very minimal, and they've never had any hair loss. So idk, I think I'm going to talk with my doc about it even if I decide not to do it. Instead I might look into a diaphragm or something similar, since he says he can't feel much with a condom on. Thanks everyone.
    How can you see where you're going if you spend your whole life looking over your shoulder? –Naughty Ninja

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 11
    Last Post: 06-07-2010, 01:35 PM
  2. "safe sex?"
    By ginger22 in forum Sex
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 08-04-2009, 11:05 PM
  3. the "dark brown" ring and "stain" at the back door...
    By imblondeandimbeautiful in forum Sex
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 07-24-2009, 10:07 PM
  4. "the short skirt and sexy shorts fitness solution"
    By nicolelleirb in forum Fitness
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 01-29-2009, 08:35 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  

Beauty & Style | Fitness & Nutrition | Family & Relationships | Sex & Sexual Health | Physical & Mental Health | Girl Talk | Forum Home
Home | Health Library | Contact | Terms Of Service | Contact | Privacy Policy

© Womens-Health.com 2014 and Emerge Media