Thread: help???

i have a really hard time trying to orgasm and can take quite a long time to do so. if i use a toy on the clit then i can orgasm but if it is there to long i can go numb! and as for an orgasm coming from the v then that is really hard. i find that i do not feel that much when me and my partner do have sex and he thinks i am not enjoying it but it is really hard for me to enjoy when i cant really feel anything going on down there! any ideas? am i normal?

It's pretty normal for women to be unable to climax during vaginal intercourse. Have you tried rubbing your clitoris or having him rub your clitoris while you're having sex? This is usually easier to do while you're on top or if he's behind you. It's often helped for me..

we have tried but it seems so hard and we just dont get anywhere so he gets all funny sometimes but its easy for him! i can orgasm when he touches me on the C which is great but sometimes with does not always happen.

Yeah I can't orgasm from vaginal intercourse either (not yet anyway...). If you always use a toy to masturbate, you could be desensitizing yourself and it takes longer and longer to climax each time. Try getting used to doing it without the toy, and having your partner stimulate you during sex and see what happens.

thanks for all the tips they are very helpful keep coming

Sex rings do the job nicely for me... and they'll feel nice for both you AND your partner

The trick is for the man to use his public bone to stimulate your where you need it, its not just "in out", thats not going to work for you.

Get him to read up on doing figure 8's and rubbing your C with his public bone. Should work and keep you both happy, remeber to tell him "ladies come first".