Orgasm problem: Lubricated/aroused but immediately ticklish -medical issue?

**feint80** · 10-11-2010 12:51 PM

Hello,

I'm a newbie on here and hoping to seek advice/guidance on an issue I think I have.

Im 28/newly wed/ raised in a religious household and never 'explored' myself I guess by masturbating.

Issue: I'm having an issue reaching an orgasm. I'm searching on here for a similar issue but can't find my resolution/direction of a fix. Can someone help me address the ff concerns.

1. When I'm being caressed I'm very lubricated but when my husband is penetrating I feel NO pleasure when he is penetrating and thrusting me.

2. While my clitoris is being stimulated I feel very very good but all of a sudden I get SOO ticklish that I really cant hold it. I feel aroused and good for about 10 seconds then have to move his hand away. I've tried holding it and fighting the sensation but yet still feel nothing.

3. We Have talked about it but Im unable to find a solution

Do I have some sort of "medical" issue?

I've tried multiple positions and lotions but people say sex feels 'amazing' and orgasms can make your head spin but unfortunately after being lubricated and stimulated for a little while by the vagina my husband seems like he is having a blast while I'm curious with myself.

**feint80** · 10-17-2010 12:09 AM

no help? or no solution

**Altair** · 10-17-2010 12:22 AM

Have you talked to a doctor about it?
I don't really understand what your problem is.

**caterpillar79** · 10-17-2010 12:29 AM

I think you could try kegel exercises coupled with breathing and relaxation for your issue #1. For #2, try some variation - clit stimulation, then nipple, then back down, with his tongue or fingers. Read or Google about Trantric Sex techniques or Taoist sex practices, this might enlighten you. Likewise, playing on your own also helps as it would tell you what you want, where and how you want it, and then you could "direct" your hubby.

I don't think you have any medical concerns as of yet. Like you, I'm relatively a newly wed, and was raised in a sheltered home, where masturbation is sin. I am just starting to "explore" myself now. I have not tried a vibrator, but a dildo that wouldn't fit, so it ended up in the trash can. I decided to just touch myself and see how it feels, that's all...

You may also read some romantic, sensual novels. This would help enhance your perception and hopefully your juices as well.

**WildChild** · 10-17-2010 09:02 AM

Direct stimulation of the clitorus can be too intense. Try working around it, to the side and as Cat suggests, stimulate some other erogenous zones as well.