Im 16 and i need some advice about sexx.

**BabyyfaceLee** · 10-14-2010 08:52 AM

Okayy im 16 and i lost my virginity when i was 15. how do i tell my mom that im having sex and i want to be open open with her about it?
i dnt really want too tell her because of the reaction i might get bt idk..

**sourpuss** · 10-14-2010 09:19 AM

Do you have a boyfriend right now? Are you sexually active? What's your relationship like with your mother? Do they like your boyfriend?

**masterchief** · 10-14-2010 09:52 AM

Ask her to buy you some contraception, she'd work it out.

Or ask her how she felt if you started have sex at your age. Then drop into the talk that you've already tried.

It's hard to judge without knowing your mom, you're the best judge of her character. I'd prefer if my kids wanted to talk about it and let me know, not all parents are the same.

**foxdana** · 10-15-2010 04:13 AM

I have a 16 year old and I would want her to tell me, so I could give her some advice and protection. I think any mum in the same position would feel the same way.

**stressed** · 10-15-2010 05:12 AM

Originally Posted by foxdana

I have a 16 year old and I would want her to tell me, so I could give her some advice and protection. I think any mum in the same position would feel the same way.

That's how I did with my mom. Even if the thought scares us as teens, any mom would give advise than turn hysterical. Moms are our friends, at least mine is to me.

**x.st.angel.x** · 10-15-2010 06:47 AM

I told my mother in a text message. I was too embarrassed to tell her face to face. I got home that day and she sat down with me and we had a talk and she was able to talk me through a few things. I think its important to tell your mother, however you plan on doing so.

**Tiptopshape** · 10-15-2010 07:16 AM

Originally Posted by masterchief

Or ask her how she felt if you started have sex at your age. Then drop into the talk that you've already tried.

It's hard to judge without knowing your mom, you're the best judge of her character. I'd prefer if my kids wanted to talk about it and let me know, not all parents are the same.

I agree. Try to ask her how she would feel if a teen your age would be doing it and breaking it to her gently if the topic goes towards the truth. She might get upset at first but I'm sure she'd appreciate it in the end once you'll tell her. Goodluck!

**shweedart** · 10-15-2010 05:30 PM

Something along the lines of 'Um, right, mum...You may not like it but I'd rather you knew, I'm sexually active and I'd like for you to not shout at me! And maybe come to the Dr. or sexual health clinic with me to get contraception sorted'

**lorlove** · 10-19-2010 04:52 PM

It's good for you to be open with your mom about this. I give you major props as I was really nervous to open up to my mom.
I think the most important thing to let her know is that her knowing you're active can keep you more safe. This gives your mom the opportunity to give you guidance and make sure that you're staying safe. And this allows you to open up to her if you have any questions. She may not react in a great way at first, but she really will appreciate your willingness to open up about this.

**Jimbeau** · 10-19-2010 05:58 PM

Originally Posted by BabyyfaceLee

Okayy im 16 and i lost my virginity when i was 15. how do i tell my mom that im having sex and i want to be open open with her about it?
i dnt really want too tell her because of the reaction i might get bt idk..

It probably won't seem that long ago to her that she was your age and will probably relate to you more than you might think.