Thread: Please help...

Hi, I got married Sep 11 and am completely in love with my husband. Im 25 years old and we both kept ourselves because of religious beliefs. I was a virgin and have very little experience. It took about 7-10 times to break my hymen and it was extremely painful everytime. Basically sex doesn't feel that great, it doesnt hurt anymore but it doesn't feel good. We have tried alot of foreplay and I have had an orgasm through foreplay but as soon as intercourse starts everything that feels good is over. Its really discouraging. Sometimes I just want to cry about it because I know its not what its suppose to be and I hear all these comments from other women about how fun and exciting it is. I feel like I am void or made wrong. We are open about it and we thought about trying to get a book. If you have had this problem and have advice I would appreciate it. Also if you have any suggestions on a book that would help. I don't know what it is that gives a woman an orgasm during intercourse, for me nothing even goes near the clitoris during sex. I want to have an orgasm with my husband not work separately first for me then for him, thats not how its suppose to be. I also have huge problems with insecurity and trust, I don't know if that could contribute. Thanks