Thread: I cant cum during sex!!! please help.

This may be an odd question...but, are you and your boyfriend 1. 'having sex' or 2. 'HAVING SEXXX '
1- You do it, it's alright, but it does feel like just a load of sliding about and its not particularly enjoyable.
2- Passionate, lost in the moment...every bit of it feels awesome and you both dance along to the same rhythm?

Have you ever had an orgasm? Clitoral or otherwise. If you have and you can D.I.Y. then play with yourself whilst having sex. I very much doubt your bf would object.

But it could be because your now expecting NOT to have an orgasm because you havnt before, or are trying too hard.

Dont lose hope! I'm sure one of the WH guys or gals will give you some fantastic advice.

yes i can but thats all it never goes farther than that its like my body orgasms and then just reaches its limit.

and i would say 2 :] ive have an orgasm from manual stimulation but during sex its passionate and loving and it feels great but thats it sadly. i'll try next time to help stimulate myself thank you i appreciate the advice swheedart.

Lots of foreplay...intense kissing, breast stimulation, fingering and possibly oral might be needed to get you to the point where you are almost ready to cum before he enters you. Of course, touching yourself (your clit) at any time during all this is perfectly OK.

Originally Posted by skirt99

possibly oral might be needed

How about having a couple of sessions with him where you forget about intercourse but instead do mutual masturbation and then mutual oral? If it's not against your moral code watch a few porn movies that feature couples doing these.