blowjob vs. eating out.

**shweedart** · 10-20-2010 04:12 PM

Would you say they're of equal quiantities in your relationship?

Their not in mine! I'm not even joking, he gets a bj most nights a week and he returns the favour once or twice a month. I've dropped every hint there is, I've even straight up told him that he needs to sort it out but his excuse is 'You take ages'.
I've even told him where to move and what speed...I've tried everything! I give up! he's a lazy bumhole.
Infact, he doesn't believe in any type of foreplay unless its a 'bit of a hand job' and wonders why I dont come everytime?....
Seriously, if we ever get married, I can see our wedding night and honeymoon consisting of blowjobs and him pounding away at me. Yeah the sex isn't completely terrible but jesus it couldn't hurt to show some interest elsewhere!

I honestly think I've spoilt him. I'm VERY neat and tidy down there, also VERY hygienic. So I have no idea what his problem is. He used to do it all the time.

When we send eachother dirty texts its one of the main components...then when it's back to the bedroom he's all Mouth and...no mouth!

So lately, the blowjobs have been in very short supply. i.e. NONE. Thats getting me no-where either!

HELP ME! It may sound selfish of me but if he doesn't like doing it...I dont care. I dont like it in the bum but I do it every now and then! I don't like having my head pushed down during BJ's either but he doesn't hear a peep out of me!

Just once, I'd like to be woo'd. Too much to ask?

Rant over. GRRR-HUMPH!

**Anon_1990** · 10-20-2010 04:18 PM

God hes a lucky man. Me and my girlfreind havent shared a single intimate moment in nearly 5 months.

If I was him, id pay back as much as i got, probably more

**WildChild** · 10-20-2010 04:19 PM

Been there only even more uneven. He got bjs several times a week, after the first couple months I got Zip. Never got better for more than a day or two after a talk. Give this some serious thought. Do you want a life time of this?

**shweedart** · 10-20-2010 04:20 PM

..so, your from the Uk?...
haha I joke!
What's your opinion from a mans point of view?

**Anon_1990** · 10-20-2010 04:22 PM

Yeah, not too far from you. WOAH YOUR ON 666 POSTS :-|.......

My opinion? Jealousy, though with a sex drive thats currently rusting shut, Im not one to ask.

Id say he should pay you back happily

**shweedart** · 10-20-2010 04:22 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Do you want a life time of this?

I've thought about that a lot. If we were to break-up It would be because of our sex life. Then, I dont want to lose him and think 'I lost the greatest thing that ever happened to me because he didn't go down on me enough'

**rcoreyus** · 10-20-2010 04:51 PM

Just to balance the score, I always offer to go down on my wife, she gives me a BJ maybe once every few years, and has only finished the job twice.

I think that sex should be mutual. While people shouldn't do things they really don't like, I think people should do things that their partners enjoy, even if they don't like them much.

As has been discussed before here, the person with the lower sex drive controls the sexual relationship. They can ask for almost anything - their partner will do it just to get some sex. They can turn down doing anything they don't particularly enjoy because their partner will still do what they want.

In shweedart's case, I think the unfairness is a bigger issue than her not getting oral sex. She does all sorts of things for him, why won't her return the favor. Makes him sound selfish.

**shweedart** · 10-20-2010 05:04 PM

His sex drive's fine when it comes to blowjobs and getting straight to sex

**ItsASecret** · 10-20-2010 05:18 PM

In my relationship they are not in equal quantity. That is because I personally do not enjoy receiving oral so I simply do not ask for it...but if he wants to give he is welcome to go ahead. Giving on the other hand I will do anytime he asks.

**shweedart** · 10-20-2010 05:31 PM

How do you's think I should go about adressing this?
Every girl wants to be seduced and made to feel like the sexiest, most desirable thing on the planet. Which isn't what I'm getting and I dont think I've ever had.