My man prefers to masturbate than make love to me...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-30-2010 05:55 PM

I guess I do get masterbation and the effects that has, I do get performance can be lengthy before cumming, I do get that you offer to help there, I guess I don't get, why he can't therefore, have penentrative sex, if he can become erect, if he can orgasm...and chooses only to have oral, or manual stimulation only.

If your not nagging

Sorry about that, had to ask... Then he's content in his relationship... just won't perform but 12 months is stupid in my opinion, that's like it started that way was left to continue that way and now it's going to be hard to pull that back into some form of pleasure for you, as well, that's not fair is it, the way it's going...

I see it two ways, one he is just comfortable in a friendship type relationship, having not had many women in his life, can't handle giving there, or doing......

Or is totally selfish knowing it takes along time through penetration but not as long, in masterbation....

Or, that, I guess, I'm sure it's not the case, but, that he perhaps secretly is not into women at all, and is hiding... by being with you...

Well, as I said, clutching here

**Sunshine Girl** · 10-31-2010 01:34 AM

Well I would say he is very content in his relationship with me, he is doing things his way is'nt he?

I guess we won't know the reasons he does what he does, after all if he does'nt know the answer himself, what chance do we have

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-31-2010 01:45 AM

Smart lady

I imagine yes, he is.

Sorry for throwing that out there, but it can happen....

Well, think on what you just wrote... He is doing everything his way... What about you? Maybe he thinks then that he can simply be, as you may discuss, converse, share your thoughts, ask, but at the end of the day he knows he's safe?

CW