Thread: On top...

My boyfriend loves it when i am on top, but i sometimes feel weird and feel like i'm not pleasuring him. I feel awkward when i'm riding him because i don't know what to do or how to move.

Tips?

Dont over think it...and don't expect to do it like they do in the movies...bouncing around, arms flailing, hair grabbing, unthinkable at this point!

I just wiggle my bum really, I'm a good little hip mover so this is comfy and pays off!
I lean forward so my boobs are just barely above his chest or infront of his face (clit stimulation...adjust it to suit you) and I get him to hold my bum or my hips, then I just make a sort of humping, bum lifting, beyoncé motion with a little stomach roll to keep it rhythmic ...if that makes sense?

I found my favourite technique purely by accident, I angle my hips so that it feels like he's just about to 'pop out' (not too much though) then straighten up and do it again

Then I just combine them all and it's faaaantastic for the both of us

Thanks shweedart! I will be trying some of these techniques and then updating on how it goes. He says it just take a good amount of practice and neither of us mind that at all! We were both virgins when we met so we are learning together.

Yeah same as me and my bf

Cor, we both have g-spot issues and now we have this in common...who'da thunk it :P haha

I've heard that the best way for a man to have a very intense orgasm is to insert a finger into his bum, but my boyfriend WILL NOT let me do this to him. He says "its gay!" Plus, I don't know if I could do it.

OMG! Having the female on top of the male is, in my opinion, one of the best of all worlds. Think of it this way.... You're in control of the speed, the rhythm and the movement. He gets to enjoy complete access to the rest of your body....while watching your face when you experience an orgasm (hopefully).

As for inserting a finger into a man's bum, he needs to get over the "it's gay" thing to take his pleasure to another level. Once he gets comfortable with that, if he does over time, the next thing for you to do is massage his prostate. Speaking from a man's perspective and experience, it was a little strange at first. Even the idea of it bugged me a bit. Then after some discussion, I allowed my partner to do it....amazing! The prostae massage was next...sometime later...and that was even more amazing!

The same can be said for doing it to a woman, at least my partner, just before she's about to orgasm. I insert a finger just a little bit and she goes crazy! She seems to really enjoy it when I'm giving her oral.

Keep talking about it with your partner, as it will be worth the effort once you both have experienced it!

Originally Posted by shweedart

...I lean forward so my boobs are just barely above his chest or infront of his face (clit stimulation...adjust it to suit you) and I get him to hold my bum or my hips,...

My gf does that exactly, and I can't begin to describe how good it feels when her breasts brush lightly against my chest!

I found my favourite technique purely by accident...

And that's just the way it happens!
Keeping trying and there's no telling what you'll discover next: my gf and I have been together for a year now, and it just keeps getting better and better.

- TR

Just an update. I tried the suggestion that shweedart posted and it work out great! I told him that I wanted to try something new and of course he did not object to that! I got on top of him and put his hands on my hips. I leaned up with my hands on his chest and bounced my bum up and down.

We both thought that it was the best sexual experience that we have ever had, even though we have great sex anyway. He even rubbed my clit when I straightened up and rocked back and forth. It was great and I thank you for the advice!

I find it best to get on top and lean forward so he can play with my breast and just make circular motions with my hips and move up and down he loves it. I also like to lean back also just so his penis is about to pop out and ride him like that. It is wonderful.

Yayy! I helped someone haha woo!

as for the finger in the bum...my boyfriend likes me stroking around down there but he isn't into penetration ...we've tried it a couple of times, and though its less romantic (I suppose) I just put a lubey condom over my finger...may not sound great but I've got long nails that I'm not willing to cut