Thread: About to give up...help please

Avoid penetration until you are ready.

The problem is that he enters too quickly, penetration is something that should happen later after the foreplay on you.

Slow down take a lot longer before you finally remove your clothes, practice the art of hugging and kissing and lots of gentle touching and caressing ever so slowly before you even think about penetration.

Have him lay next to you and just caress your body very slowly with his hands.

Let his hands glide over your body just touching your skin - but only just (this is not rubbing) its caressing ( caressing is when your hands are just close enough to say its contact )- just close enough to tickle your hair follicles on your skin cells.

Allow him to very gently and slowly caress your body with his hands from your head to your feet, and from feet to head with long and intemittant circling motions initially avoiding your breasts and vulva.

Keep this caressing up until his arms are aching, get him to switch over to the other side make him use his other hand ( he can lay on his belly) and then turn over and get him to do the same on your back right down to your feet but tell him not to tickle you.

After maybe 45 minutes to an hour of this caressing then start to get closer to the breast and vulvu but again just get him to tease you not spend too much time on the breasts - other areas need the attention to.

Ask him to pay attention to the texture of your skin looking for goose bumps this is a good sign means its working ....

Get him to run his dry finger gently through your hair this has to be done with some finesse, he needs to avoid pulling on the hair and hurting your scalp, ideally if his fingers are fine this works well.

Then tell him to use his finger nails like hes a falcon coming down to swoop on its prey. ... knead your scalp with his finger tips and nails tell him it needs to be down very very gently with swirling motions like a head massage.

This head caressing must be done ever so gentely to avoiding pulling the hair out which of course hurts.

The entire body is one huge errogenous zone, women are especially sensitive around the neck so special attention should be paid to those areas when caressing those areas, you can gentely touch into your ears or very gentle nibble those ares with your mouth even the occasional extremely gentle bite is good of the ear lobe just make sure its not to hard as that can hurt, its more of a bringing the teeth together slighly and very gently biting biting is to strong a word.

Nibbling the neck under your ears is good sometimes circling your tongue around the earlobe is a turn on to. But dont get to carried away and wet sloppy kiss it. That might be counter productive.

After a long time as much as he is prepared to do the longer the better.

After some time caress your inner and outer thighs avoid dragging fingers over the skin or what I call rubbing, then continue on to the vulva and breasts but again dont spend too much time on those areas.

Avoid grinding, hard rubbing or force, you're a human being not a car body or machine. All this rubbish with gspot rubbing to me is ridiculous. Having said that I have read about the parauretheral gland so dont lecture me on that one etc.

We seem to have lost our way, too much porn is ruining the art of love making.

Dildos to me are just gimmiks that someone makes money out of.

Sex should not be commerce.

Orgasm comes from gentleness, great care, thoughtfullness, prolong effective foreplay over a long time, like anything worth while nothing comes easy, you got to put time in to achieve it, quick 5 min bang, nugh not good enough you have to put the time in and its has to be ever so gentle and loving when you do it.

Words that sum it up: Slow, Gentle, quiet, peaceful, relaxing, you should never be in a hurry make it last all night.

Practice kissing and cuddling take your time there is no hurry.

What age is this forst of all? As i have read on other posts there are different positions you can use that wont feel as good to him he needs to learn to stop before he gets there and change his concentrations mode, It is partly a mind thing if he is thinking about ejaculation and how good its feeling he will goo alot faster he neeeds to be able to change his mind set and positions when he feels close not follow through because it feels so good its hard I have been told but if he holds out it will be much better for him and you. Dont take it personal your definitely doing your part and he is definitely into you probably more than he needs to be he needs to think away from how he is feeling during this and about how your feeling. If you feel he is getting locked into a position where he is ready to go you stop or change positions a bit. Hope this helps

Honesty is key. Back in like 1999-2000 my then girlfriend/now wife told me I was too quick and if I couldn't satisfy her she'd have to move on. I first took it the wrong way, but after analyzing realized I was a physical problem between her and sexual happiness. Now she begs me to stop after multiples, drenched bedspreads and lost of breath while screaming in ecstasy and tearing up from pleasure(not bragging, but yeah, I do my thing) because when she was honest with me I did what i needed to do to fix the problem.

No real man doesn't want to put forth the effort to leave you satisfied, let him know what needs to be done and he will figure it out on his own.