Orgasm - switching positions during.

**MJFP** · 11-04-2010 12:16 AM

So I decided to post this here because well ... its more informative than the mens site haha.
My girlfriend want's me to come in her mouth, we've tried a couple times but everytime I pull out I lose my orgasm. I also have a problem where I last way to long, my pleasure seems to plateu and I can't reach orgasm. It isn't a everytime thing but it can be frustrating. Is their any tricks to escalate my pleasure on the regular and sustain it enough for me to do the deed? I'm more turned on by it the more I think about it and fail?

Something else I thought of could be that when i was born my urethral opening was on the bottom of my penis so I have a bit to scar tissue on the underside of the head? I thought that might be decreasing my pleasure. I've tried cutting down on masterbation, stoped watching porn entirerly ... Is there a cream or something?

**WildChild** · 11-04-2010 08:33 AM

Some men just never come from oral. It may be a matter of nerves, or of her skill level. Do you have any problem with orgasming and ejaculating vaginally?
As for the epispadias, that may or may not be a part of the problem. Only you can determine that. I've been with a man who had a mild form it didn't seem to have any effect, he was pretty much addicted to oral and had no problem comming. I've been with a man who had a more servere form and had several surgeries, he enjoyed oral but never came from it but then not all men do. If you have some area of decreased sensitivity it may require experimenting a bit.

**Chrissle64** · 11-04-2010 07:27 PM

My husband struggles with finished during oral. I've tried until I physically couldn't do it anymore and still nothing. Sometimes when I get my husband close to an orgasm he will start to stroke himself while I continue to go down on him. Have you tried that?

**MJFP** · 11-05-2010 08:00 PM

Ok I've thought of a few things I'm gonna try out when she come's home from her work trip tomorrow a little experimenting is fun. Reaching orgasm vaginally isn't usually a problem unless I'm intoxicated then it's impossible, but orally I've never had the pleasure.

Originally Posted by Chrissle64

My husband struggles with finished during oral. I've tried until I physically couldn't do it anymore and still nothing. Sometimes when I get my husband close to an orgasm he will start to stroke himself while I continue to go down on him. Have you tried that?

Before she left we tried it where I would masturbate with only 2 fingers and she was just teasing my head while randomly doing more intense things and I was so close I'm gonna try it again, it seems like less is more sometimes.

It's funny though she gets more dissapointed than me, god bless her haha

**Hmmm Really?** · 11-07-2010 06:27 AM

Keep with the vaginal and time yourself to the last seconds. You can give yourself those few seconds to move to the mouth without "losing it"(trying not to be explicit, but when you can get her with a good one that drools off her mouth and leaks from her nostrils it will change your aspect)), and make her feel accomplished. Do it a few times and you'll get used to the environment enough that you can get in done orally alone.

I've been there. I don't think women understand that while their mouth is enjoyable, it's not the same as vaginal intercourse and doesn't get the same results. But when the time is right, oral will give you a different experience and feel. I felt "accomplished" the first time I finsished with oral alone, and it was a different finish than I could ever get from intercourse...dare I say a better finish. Lol, waaaaaayyyyyy better finish.

**Texasred** · 11-07-2010 10:46 PM

Interesting thread: I've never finished from oral, pleasurable though it was, and my gf seems quite disappointed, as if it's a failing on her part - which I assure her it is not!

From what one "hears," I was beginning to think I'm the only guy who doesn't!
We've got plenty of other things to do to keep us satisfied, though, so we don't much worry about it.

**WildChild** · 11-07-2010 11:04 PM

Originally Posted by Texasred

Interesting thread: I've never finished from oral, pleasurable though it was, and my gf seems quite disappointed, as if it's a failing on her part - which I assure her it is not!

From what one "hears," I was beginning to think I'm the only guy who doesn't!
We've got plenty of other things to do to keep us satisfied, though, so we don't much worry about it.

I've encounted a few men who simple do not cum from oral. Don't know why, they jsut don't . You are not alone in this.

**Colorado** · 11-08-2010 07:37 PM

No big deal and you are definately not alone. As you said there are plenty of other things to keep you satified <---- and THAT my friend is what its all about, no big issue, not like you HAVE to get there that way, and it is still pleasurable (again, as you stated), so she souldn't let it bother her either.
Ensure her, that like some women (from what I understand) cant orgasm from certain acts, neither can men in some. I have on occasion, but its far and few in between, and to be honest, it's not all there is to an encounter - not the end-all-be-all if you'll have it. I get great pleasure from it anyhow, so who cares if you cum that way or another? No biggie, NORMAL.