Thread: which is worse?

Cheating is cheating it is wrong.

To address your question......they would both bother me equally...

I've been with my wife over a decade never cheating. That comes from nothing but respect for her and her feelings. As guys, it's just f**king, but you know it means more to your woman, so why hurt her over a girl who's name you won't remember? You're better off leaving a girl who you could've taken to a hotel and going home to treat the girl you're with like you would've treated the prostitute or side girl. Especially when you'd treat them differently because of their disposition.

Human females adapt and can turn into that girl you almost went home with or almost paid for a BJ if you have enough backbone to control the situation and turn them into what you want down to telling them to put on a wig and outfit to make them not resemble themselves. , You're better off going home to degrade the woman you normally respect by treating her like some 1 night stand you just met and getting her off in the process that going home with the actual one night stand. And if you don't confess to what drove you to treat her like a hoe/side chick the night before, she thinks it was directly due to her, which is what you should want her to think. Then she embraces her inner hoe and you look outside your relationship less.

(edit profanity) I'd do nothing to hurt my wife emotionally or mentally, so therefore we have a bond I could have no where else not because I wouldn't for myself(if I was selfish), but because I think of her before anything I do. Hope that makes sense.

Men are not emotionally attached to physical acts such as sex, our self control comes from our attachment to the woman we're with beyond such things.

It's the equivalent to a girl having to tell a secret to her best friend first(not to sound shallow). If you tell some girl you don't really like in the workplace/social scene before your best friend, you feel the same way we feel from sex with someone, but if you really care about your friend, you'd never go to anyone before her 1st out of respect for your friend.

So which would I prefer? I'd prefer my man came to me and said you know what... I'm no longer satisfied being with only you sexually, I am going to likely be seeing someone else, short term, long term.. I don't know yet. And giving me the opportunity to walk out the door and never see him again, or to decide to stay and see other people myself... but respecting me enough to not decide for me that its okay for him to see prositutes or long term mistresses while I sit home waiting for him faithfully.

As a side note, certain diseases can still be spread through oral sex, so hopefully you didn't mention bj instead of sex from a prostitute because you see it as somehow less risky, for some diseases it is... not for all. Also hopefully you didn't mention bj instead of sex because you think its some how less of on offence ... its not. A lot of people see oral just as, if not more, intimately than intercourse.