my partner cant handle my sex drive

**loulou22** · 11-09-2010 05:33 PM

i am 22 and my partner is 29, he says i have a sex problem. I think he is right but don't know what to do????? when he is not around i dont need sex, i dont watch porn or masturbate, but when my partner is around i can not resist i need it! i enjoy having sex with him but once i have it i want more and more! i am not pleased with 3 times a day it can range from 8-10 and more if i could have it! but my partner feels it is too much and i need to try and control myself because he can not handle it anymore he feels twice a day is more than enough! he only has to be near me or brush past me and i can not stop myself i find myself almost begging for it!!
what do i do???

**bob_smith** · 11-09-2010 06:11 PM

I find this thread very hard to believe.

**WildChild** · 11-09-2010 08:37 PM

I don't find this at all hard to believe. I've been a similar state of mind at times. I suggest you work more on quality of experience rather than quantity.

**Colorado** · 11-09-2010 09:00 PM

Originally Posted by bob_smith

I find this thread very hard to believe.

Au contraire mon frere, my wife went through this as well and let me tell you it was fun in the beggining, and then... then it starts even to get painful! trying to keep up with her during this early point in our life was torture!
I (as wrong as it was) actually got mad and told her she needed to see a doctor because it was not normal to have that stong of a sexual urge - again VERY WRONG of me to ever had said that; but I was withering away seriously! LMAO - trying to keep up with her.

Now looking back - I can only think, God, I hope she goes through that again!

Loulou, I feel your pain, but please understand his also - it really does get painfull when you have soo much sex that you rub it raw. I would suggest for your benefit and his, that he try using condoms after a couple times to provide that second skin and help protect his penis or lots of lube. The more he gets sore, the less his going to want to even touch it or have it touched, as what once was a pleasure is now a pain.

Do you switch it up and keep it interesting for him? Would you be happy to have him watch you masterbate for him a couple of those times a day? at least it would give him a break and some time to recouperate for your next attack (just joking), but you know what I mean.

If this is a passing state of mind for you , I assure you that he will miss this one day, and hope it happens again, as I now do. Trust me on this.

**Texasred** · 11-09-2010 09:42 PM

Don't EVER let yourself be defined by other people, not with regard to sex nor anything else!
If your bf can't keep up, let him just say so and find a way to deal with it that satisfies you both, but do NOT let him make you feel like there's something wrong with YOU when the "problem" is clearly his!
Note that I am a man, but I cannot side with him in something like this!
Note also that there are a lot of men - you can read some of their stories here - who'd love to have your bf's problem!

**loulou22** · 11-10-2010 01:57 AM

He also feels i need to go the doctor, he enjoys it very much as i do mix it up a lot and like to please him more than myself sometimes he loves the fact that i am different and doesnt find it painful as i am always turned on and never dry! i have used lubes but mainly edible and thats for me to use oral its not just sex i want, i constantly just have to touch it! its becoming very hard for him as i cant control my actions, he feels he is failing me and gets very frustrated that we cant just cuddle with out me wanting to touch him. Its like a craving.

**loulou22** · 11-10-2010 02:18 AM

also its not that it hurts he just feels he needs time to recuperate and that he cant keep up!

**TJPatriot** · 11-10-2010 04:37 AM

Originally Posted by Texasred

when the "problem" is clearly his!

I would disagree with this statement. The "problem" is in their compatibility/hormones, or some such thing. It's not any one persons problem.

I wonder, if some woman came on here saying their boyfriend needed it 8-10 times a day and she can't keep up, would she be at fault there?

**bob_smith** · 11-10-2010 07:19 AM

ok, maybe it can happen that a woman needs it 8 times a day, but i would be surprised if it lasted for more than 3 months.

**ItsASecret** · 11-10-2010 09:00 AM

I wonder, if some woman came on here saying their boyfriend needed it 8-10 times a day and she can't keep up, would she be at fault there?

Probably not her, but her vagina may be in a way. It can only take so much pounding in a day same with a penis. It needs rest and cannot be continuously slammed, eventually the muscles do tire out they do need a rest and there needs to be a period of time if not a couple days to recoop. A couple times a day is not uncommon but when you start stretching into the clouds of more than a handful of times a day, 6,7,8,9 times, there needs to be a step taken to see why that is happening and if maybe 2 or 3 times a day can still fulfill that need.